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Annette, Denver, CO — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 15:05:27 GMT

I thought Paul was very articulate, well spoken, non confrontational, intelligent and honest. Hard to find those qualities in a man. Mereidth and the Dr. interviewing him appeared inadequate compared to his candid and honest response.

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Kimberly, Columbus, Ohio — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 15:33:03 GMT

Please know that all women, single or otherwise, are not "putty" in men's hands. Paul has every right to be a Casanova, scoundrel, playboy, etc. It is every woman’s responsibility to stay on top of her personal relationships and to stay in "check". If Paul purposely pursues vulnerable women, that is a different situation, but from his interview, I didn't take him to do that. I am not sure he would even give two thoughts to the woman's state of mind.

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Sunshine Pollard — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 15:46:20 GMT

I do not think Paul has an addiction, and I thought Natalie and the Dr. were condescending and rude. If the man does not want to get married why must we say there is something wrong with him. Monogamy, marriage and family is not for everyone. As a women I do not want any of those things. I get much support from both men and women for this. However, when a man is like this he is a sex addict. What a closed minded view in this day and age.

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J.Z., Shelton, Ct. — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 15:52:11 GMT

The Today Show can possibly spearhead the effort to bring a mental illness known as NPD into the foreground. Narcissistic Personality Disorder disorder was recognized long ago, but only recently has become rampant in this generation. Grandiosity is the diagnostic hallmark of pathological narcissism

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Ivan Quiroga — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 15:54:38 GMT

I'm a man, but I'd say that woman find this guy attractive because he's good looking, "hip," intelligent, and ivy-leagued educated. He's also polite and a good listener.

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HWL, Alexandria. VA — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:00:22 GMT

I agree with Annette from Denver, the primary interviewer was trying to led Paul with questions that she had no clue about what she was asking. Now to my attidional comments. I don't know where people get their information from. There are women who do not mind telling you they are freaks, most are but won't tell you up front. If you want to get an indicator of women dating behavior, log on the match.com pick out any woman and you will see that most of the women on that site are homesteaders. They have determined that that site have given them an opportunity to meet a lot of different men, not to settle down with, but to date.

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Silvana, Corona,CA — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:02:44 GMT

He is still young enough to play that kind of a game and I'm sure there are women like this too. By the time he is a father, I'm curious on how he will want his daughter to be treated and if it's the same disregard. When a person has respect for themselves they don't give it away so easily, no matter how inteligent or beautiful they are.

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Bridget, Lagrangeville, NY — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:11:38 GMT

Oh, grow up!! It is not a wonder why women are attracted to this man. Look at him. Listen to him speak. He's great looking, interesting job, intelligent, confident. Why should all men be out shopping for a bride?? This is not 1950. I would have thought that your intereviewers would be slightly more enlightened than to blame his "serial dating" on having divorced parents. Come on! It seems that he is honest with himself and with the women he dates, (and hopefully practicing some very SAFE sex!) so maybe his answers just aren't what some women want to hear. Doesn't seem like the villain you may try to make him out to be.

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Karen Furman, Mission Viejo, CA — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:19:10 GMT

This man is arrogant, selfish and irresponsible. It is a mystery to me that any woman would find him attractive.

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Susan from Connecticut — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:22:40 GMT

Paul was very up front and honest...better that than a man who uses women and then dumps them or never calls them again.If he is being straight forward with a woman , then she can decide for herself what she wants. I found it interesting that this segment was so slanted toward men behaving this way; I think there are many women out there who would also be like Paul. After all, it does take two to have a relationship!

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Melissa — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:22:45 GMT

I work in a gynecologist's office and I wish this segment had put some emphasis on the health consequences of engaging in behavior like Paul's. And yes, there are consequences. If it's true that Paul has had sex with over 100 women, then any woman who is even thinking about having sex with him needs to have that guy tested for an STD and/or HIV from head to toe on a regular basis. I don't care how handsome he is. And this goes for any man or woman who engages in the same behavior. Our office sees way too many people being diagnosed with STDs and/or HIV every week. The sad part is so many people are shocked by their diagnosis because they've been living in denial. People also learn that condoms are not enough, as these diseases can also be transmitted orally. And yes, a lot of the carriers of these diseases are nice, good-looking people who appear perfectly healthy. Nobody is worth catching a disease and possibly dying over. People need to do a better job of protecting their health.

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Rich, West Palm Beach, FL — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:30:48 GMT

Paul, it appeared that Mereidth had some sort of hangup even before you came on. Perhaps she has had an experience with a Cassanova in the past.

Unfortunately, nothing new, Leykis 101 (Tom Leykis). However, your points were well said, and I appreciate you stepping up to the plate for us men in the dating world.

I completely agree with your story and one area in particular which states, women want to be wined and dined to satisfy their egos that a handsome man has spent his time and money on them. In most cases, money wasted and nothing comes of it.

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Maureen Milford., PA — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:30:52 GMT

I thought he was extremely good looking
very honest & upfront on his thoughts
I would date him in a minute and I know
there is a lady out there who will tame
his wild ways eventually, in the meantime
enjoy the adventure.

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Nicole, Monterey, CA — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:32:45 GMT

He really didn't answer Mereidth's question about if he says up front I just want sex and even when they showed him on the phone in the interview he said, "Hey baby I want to see you again give me a call." He didn't say "you were such a hot lover that I need to hump you again, no strings of course." Had he said that at a Starbucks how popular do you think he would be. I am also curious if he is aware that condoms don't protect from...ohh I don't know: genital herpes. Just something to keep in mind. Otherwise: more power to him. Hope no one boils his bunny :)

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Sharon Alpert 1620 Ridge Rd North Haven, ct 06473 — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:32:57 GMT

I think you've really missed the point on this one. He's a good looking guy whose worst sin is self absorption. A cassanova would want to hurt women, a gigalo would be using deceit for some material gain in a relationship. a sex addict would not have been capable of hving long term monogamous relationships. To bring on experts to analyze his "behavoirs" is really overkill. This would not be a fellow I would have wanted to date, but if he stopped me in a starbucks to tell me I was attractive would have made my week!

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Bridget, Houston, Texas — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:40:07 GMT

I just don't understand why this made it to the Today Show- a guy having sex- not a new concept- nothing was learned from this and the fact so much time was taken up on the show about it today/ this morning I think is ridiculous.

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T.S., Princeton, NJ — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:43:06 GMT

I found him silly. Mainly because he seems to think he has a special gift. I know a bunch of guys like this. They're not Harvard-educated. They're blue-collar guys who are very charming to women. Janka's not a guru or an expert. He simply is able to do something that a lot of other people can do and is getting more attention for it because he's a well-off Ivy-league graduate.

Truth of the matter is that sex is easily available for people who want to have it (even the not-so-attractive), and a lot of people don't want it on Janka's terms. Many of the people who lament their lack of a sex life are not having sex because they have certain expectations. While I'm sure Janka has standards for physical beauty and whatnot, he's not looking for compatibility or a relationship. He's looking for entertainment. To even discuss him in the context of "relationships" is ridiculous. This is nothing new; people (men and women) like him have been around for years.

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Nancy, Buffalo, NY — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:45:58 GMT

I think that Paul Janka is doing what a man with a high sex drive will do. He might well be a sex addict, as the Dr. suggested. Unfortunately for him as he calls it his "appetite", amounts to what I call stranger sex. It probably fullfills his physical needs, but rarely gets to the point of an emotional connection. He does not appear happy. Maybe he should have the third date policy, to weed out the objectional ones before jumping in the sack. An experienced, creative woman with a high drive and like interests could probably land this guy in a heart beat.

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Danny Stiller, Dallas, TX — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:47:52 GMT

This guy is having sex with other men's future wives and children's future moms. He is the opposite of true masculinity. He is not taking any responsibility for the emotional health of these women. He is using them for his own satisfaction. He has no back bone. No courage.

He is right in saying that a lot of people in America want novelty is sex. But true satisfaction in sex does not come with novelty. True satisfaction in sex comes from deep emotional intimacy. Novelty in sex only feeds a desire that will never be satisfied.

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MoneyRich, Baltimore, MD — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:56:51 GMT

There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. Why is it a big issue when men carry themselves with an air of high value? What is wrong with generating options and making women work for your affection?

Basically this guy has turned the tables and GOOD FOR HIM. I can't tell you how many times I have dealt with mixed signals from women based on the fact that they don't want to sleep with me, but they enjoy the validation that I give them. What do I get in the end, nothing or a bruised ego.

Women can't have it both ways...

The paradigm that women are naive, easily manipulated by men, is hog-wash. Women manipulate men ALL THE time. It happens at work, at home, at a bar, anywhere.

The typical thought that men who sleep with many women are predators is ridiculous.

What is more manipulative a man taking a girl out and paying for dinner with the hopes of "scoring" at the end of the night or a guy that is just trying to have fun and bring a lady friend along for the ride?

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Tommy Casanova Boston, Mass — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:57:54 GMT

Finally a real candid conversation about today s dating world. I m 38, divorced ,good looking, confident, sucessful but not Donald Trump, boarderline arrogant. The key to this is honesty! You think a million beautiful woman out ther aren t Paul in a female version. My experience is woman are looking for the same as men. The key to meeting woman is confidence and what I call "cocky funny" this does not mean you cannot be a respectful nice guy. Paul is only giving woman what they want and as long as he s honest and doesn t intentionally mislead he s a class act. Bottomline woman want a MAN in every sense of the word. Thanks Paul for being candid, your brother T Casanova in Boston.

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Kathi Tate, Marion, Illinois — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 17:18:03 GMT

In my opinion, there are responsibilities that come along with human being interaction and relationships. Mr. Janka cannot absolve himself of those responsibilities as a member of the human race. Not all species operate in this manner. If you are an animal there are no such responsibilities with relationships. A thief is up front with his unsuspecting and vulnerable prey. He lets you know he is taking your valuables and leaving. But just because he is up front doesn't make it acceptable. Let us not forget Little Red Riding Hood. She was fooled by the wolf dressed in Grandma's clothes. But being dressed in Grandma's clothes did not make the wolf a human being. A wolf is a wolf is a wolf. And a wolf is not a human being. So, Mr. Janka, which will it be animal or human being?

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Heather — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 17:26:01 GMT

OK, Paul may be a Harvard grad, but he obviously has deep-seeded insecurities with a huge emotional void. It is obvious that in order for him to feel confident, he has to engage in sexual conquests. If a woman thinks he will ever settle down will be in for a surprise, as he will no doubt have numerous affairs. In a nutshell, if I saw Paul in a Starbucks, I would see through his facade and wouldn't give him the time of day!

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Chris V, Nashville — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 17:34:13 GMT

The women that have slept with him more than likely "wanted to sleep with him". He gave them the opportunity they obviously wanted. We are all human and can control our own behaviors. These women knew they didn't "have to" sleep with him, They chose to!!

Stay pimpin, Bro!!!

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Teresa — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 17:45:32 GMT

Mr. Casanova has extremely low self esteem and knows he can NOT satisfy a woman for more than a one time thing. Satisfying a woman for more than one time takes way more than he has. Thank God he knows his shortcomings or probably knows he has more than he's willing to admit!

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T.D.W. Segal, New York City, NY — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 17:46:26 GMT

Paul only somewhat realizes what he is doing. It isn't that he is so seductive; it is that he is able to weed out those women who don't want a casual relationship from the start. He is certainly getting lots of tushie, but he may well be missing out meeting somevery interesting women who might well be the types of women with whom he might want to settle down.

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Michele Varady, Pleasant Ridge, Michigan — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 17:49:18 GMT

I have to agree with one of the other posts. The Today Show did miss the mark on the diagnoses of Paul. It's not about being a Casanova or a Don Juan. It's about disorder called Narcissistic Personality disorder, which at its best a man is called a "player" or "ego-maniac", at it's worst..."Psychopath", "Ted Bundy", "Scott Peterson". Men like this are objectify EVERYONE in their lives, therefore sex with women. I do not believe that Paul is a display of the worst of this disorder, because he seems to be honest. However their are very dangerous men and woman (more rare), who have a sub conscience vendetta to associate themselves and take what they can from other people. Psychological, Sexual, and Physical Abuse all exist in these relationships. Paul actually described a bit of the abuse in the male's need for variety. This is part of what, in Narcissistic Personality Disorder, is called Devalue and Discard. Yes, it can be devastating and psychological torture for a woman to love and adored one minute, or for years while going through these mini cycles of torture, to one day...being ignored, experiencing the silent treatment, financial debt, etc. Paul and men like this at a more severe level, have to have a disconnection with human conscience. The difference between these people with and "normal" people, is that they don't have a conscience and live emotionally isolated. Their is a thrill of power and omnipotence that is experienced when they subject and are capable of causing pain to others. It helps to feel that they are alive. These victims are always, nurturing, giving, attractive, intelligent, and in some sort of vulnerable stage of existence, due to childhood trauma. It is appalling that this disorder is not given more attention to and how it affects some women for a lifetime. I'm talking suicide, psychological trauma, hospitalization. I wish and extent to the "TODAY SHOW", to please do a special on Narcissistic Personality Disorder and it's victims. It would shed so much light on those who suffer from this abuse. Paul attest is only the scratching of the surface of a deeper emotional disorder that has ruined many lives of successful, beautiful, kind women, who have been swindled, psychologically abused, physically abused and working desperately to salvage the ruins that men with a severe lean in this right to "manly indulgence", leave behind. I have experienced and would not wish it on my worst enemy. It is robbery of one's soul that is left, all for the sake of "self gratification".

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anonymous — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 17:50:00 GMT

HILARIOUS! I went to college with Paul. While good looking, most of the intelligent women he hit on while in college thought he was ridiculous. I can only imagine the types of women he is able to pick up. Paul is Paul, I can't imagine him out there to hurt people. Women are not the victims, woman are smart, and don't have to fall for pickup lines from conceited men.

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Lynn, Indiana — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 17:55:40 GMT

Ewww. That's all I can think of when I see the clip of his segment. He's just revolting.

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Jamie Burke Boise Idaho — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 17:58:29 GMT

I married a man like this and was thrilled that after all the women he dated I was "the one". Wish I could say happily ever after but sadly once we had children, he reverted to his old ways. After we divorced he told me that he wanted to "date me forever", but see other women as well....I don't think so! Can we say STD!( by the way,his photo is next to "Narcissitic Personality Disorder" in the DSM.)
Jamie, Boise Idaho

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P. Coward, N.Y., N.Y. — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 17:59:41 GMT

This man is so honest. If women paid more attention
to themselves and less attention to their pre-occupation to nest and find a man they would find relationships so much easier to handle. It's not that serious. Enjoy the moment with a man. If you're
compatible the relationship will evolve and grow on its own, if not, you were two ships passing in the night and it was good while it lasted. Women take themselves and relationships too seriously. If it was meant to be it will be.

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Lisa. Ocean City, Maryland — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 18:01:40 GMT

I am curious - if this man did not live in NYC - would his dating behavior be the same? It seemed to me that a lot of his "tenents" regarding his philosophy on dating women are based on living in an exciting, dynamic and highly populated city like Manhattan as opposed to a small, rural and less "hip" kinda town. Having said that - everyone has to be responsible for themselves with their feelings and behaviors. Yet - is every women he "dates" st that level. Ok, so he is being up-front -outa 100 hundred I wouldn't bet that he has never experienced the casual-dating-girl who thought she could change him. Ouch - I am sure that was uncomfortable.

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lindsay, Boise, Idaho — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 18:08:18 GMT

Casanova or scoundrel...really doesn't matter, whether the general public agrees or disagrees, thats no excuse to badger a person the way Mr. Janka just was. I am more astonished & taken with how biased & ameteur that would be interview was. Mr. Janka was well spoken, & collected, which more than the interviewers can say. I got the distinct impression he was only asked on the show to be made an example of...which in my opinion is trashy. Did the Today show just become the next Jerry Springer show?

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anonymous — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 18:11:39 GMT

Danny Stiller, I'd like to give you a cookie and a handshake.

I think it's incredibly ironic that we've got this huge feminist movement out there that's all about protecting women from predatory men, and ironically at the same time promotes women taking part in these kind of 'liberated' escapades. Sure women consent! What woman with low self esteem, who places her value and worth in what men think of her wouldn't react positively to an attactive, Ivy-league graduate complemnting her appearance? It doesn't matter how honest, how frank and how up front a man is about his narrow minded intentions, the fact of the matter is that women, no matter how hardened or active do NOT separate the emotional from the physical. What this man does is flat out predatory. Just because the wolf knocks nicely at your door and asks permission before he steals your sheep doesn't make it OK.

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Rae, Nashville, TN — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 18:24:04 GMT

Oh Come on people- you know this is just plain WRONG. No man should ever treat women this way. Yes the ad agency's out there use sex to sell- but you don't have to buy it. It's a cop out to blame them, it's society's own fault for lowering their standards.
He should be ashamed of himself.

You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.'[b] 28But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:27-28

18Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 19Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20

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Alexis, New York City — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 18:28:45 GMT

Why is Merideth so concerned about the feelings of the women he sleeps with? If a woman is willing to sleep with a man she hardly knows that is her choice isn't it? I would focus my character judgement on the women that go out with this guy rather than this guy. There are a million guys out there just like him, addicts or not, some are just better at what they do. He's really no different than the saleswoman at the beauty counter; She sells me a hundred dollar ounce of cream and I still have wrinkles. You learn that people don't live up to your expectations, so you adjust your expectations.

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Debbie, Spokane, WA — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 18:29:08 GMT

Unbelievable! Are there no people out there who have morals and values anymore? Judging from the responses on this blog, I think we are living in a very sad, self-centered place where commitment, interdependence, integrity and true, unselfish love are becoming a very rare thing, almost completely outmoded. Personally I think anyone who hooks up with Paul deserves him. I hope he never fathers children.....What a horrible example of manhood he is!

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Larry Withowski Lindenhurst, NY — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 18:29:51 GMT

Hello, in regard to Paul & his methods. He is a handsome guy, who is like most men in general who play the field.
I hope he is practicing safe sex. Also what is with the short stubble? On his face,OK; but on his neck? I keep my own beard short, but do not have it look like Wolverine.
Larry Withowski

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Janny, Washington, DC — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 18:32:42 GMT

I think he is very honest and up front but I also think that human nature makes it very hard for most people to be able to "compartmentalize" as he says he is able to do. Usually someone gets hurt and for him to completely disregard that is not good. That is my one fault with his thinking. When a woman gets attention from an attractive and interesting man it is flattering and easy to believe that it will just be casual but when he is focused on you he may say "no strings" but if it "feels" different it is that "feeling" that misleads. Of course the offending party can always say "I said no strings" but actions speak much louder than words and those are what mislead...whether it be a man or woman.

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Matt McDonald, St Louis, MO — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 18:34:57 GMT

I feel that anyone who feels the need to discuss the number of women he has had is trying too hard and may have orintation issues.

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jennie, NJ — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 18:37:13 GMT

Paul was refreshingly honest. If a man is upfront about his intentions, it is up to the woman to keep her emotions in check. If she cannot handle the kind of casual relationship he's looking for, she shouldn't go for it. A woman needs to be in control of her own emotions to protect herself from getting hurt.
Meredith and the Dr. seemed extremely judgmental during this interview.

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Mary, Indian Harbour Beach, FL — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 18:38:28 GMT

Well, I am a 45 year old single woman who goes out on dates and would eventually like to find Mr. Right and settle down, and I wasn't offended by Paul. It's not like this guy is forcing women to go out with him and he wasn't forcing them to have sex either. They are consenting adults and it's not his responsibility to determine if the women are mentally stable or not. I thought Meredith was way too hard on him.

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Miki — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 18:42:26 GMT

I am a 58 year old woman and find that Paul is being very honest. He is not any different than the guys from my single years 30 years ago. He is just honest and I think there are alot of women out there just looking for a man with money and a husband. Shame on Meredith for not being able to be a non judgemental journalist.

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Anonymous, NYC — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 18:57:42 GMT

Being a single woman in NYC, I believe this man represents the plethora of playboys in the city, acting as if they are children in a candy store, with women being the candy. Paul does not sound like he is being that straightforward with women, and I highly doubt many women know what they are getting into when dating him. He seems just like all of the others, and needs to grow up.

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Beth Bell — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 19:01:28 GMT

The short interview with Paul did not address whether Paul would like to date women who are also constantly looking for variety. Is this what he hopes to do for his whole life? Women have variety open to them-day-in, day-out also. Yes, he is attractive, but so are thousands of other men. Many singles are stuck with STD's after living in this manner. This aspect of the "constant change" lifestyle should not be ignored as it is very serious. Lastly, I don't get a sense of happiness with Paul-what he gives to a relationship is what he will get.

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Cheryl Stafford, Va — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 19:09:26 GMT

I think Paul has every right to be a player. It is up to the women he meets to decide if they want more. If he doen't lie to them about what he wants then no harm has occured. Women should be smarter about their choices. Most women are intelligent enough to know what he's doing. I have met plenty of women who do exactly what he does and as long as they don't mind then nobody should say anything.

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Kelly Brown — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 19:11:02 GMT

Before I was married with children I could pick and choose men. I myself would not have dated him only because he would have fallen in love with me and I would have hurt his feelings. He is nice looking but we as women have to be smarter then average Joe. Sorry I didn't read all the drama above, just to blahhhh for me. Hopefully he uses condoms!!

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David, Richmond, VA — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 19:20:06 GMT

So many comments on here discuss his good looks, when in reality there are plenty of good looking men who could not live his lifestyle even if they choose. It his energy, personality, and outlook that are attractive to women. Not his looks. As a very physically unattractive man who lives a similar lifestyle, I can say this with no reservations.

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Mike, Lubbock, Texas — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 19:22:19 GMT

Paul is overcharged and oversexed. I would say that generally he IS taking advantage of women in a certain way. Hopefully time will cure his ills. In the meantime, however, he actually might want to seek counseling to better understand why he prowls for girls. And, he IS a prowler; he is on the lookout, on the hunt. Living this kind of lifestyle is base, and reaps of banality with no higher interests. This guy is a Harvard grad. He should be able to do better. How can one respect a woman and how can she respect him, if this is all there is? Unless he gets a dose of STDs or really gets "taken" and the tables turned by a lady and gets a dose of his own medicine, I don't see him changing until his hormones finally change. Then, I think he will settle down and be a one-woman man.

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JL Sharp, Los Osos, Ca — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 19:24:40 GMT

I too feel sorry for Paul in his shallow existance, unable to give love and recieve love. Just having sex is not making love. That's one of the big differences between us and animals-- relationship.
Something else that didn't come up in the interview is how many different kinds of STD's does Paul have and shared with his partners. Hollywood never wants to address STD's and pregnacy when they sell PG and PG_13 movies that advocate sex w/o consequences.
I love this quote by none other than Groucho Marx (from Breathing Together) "Anyone who says he can see through women is missing a lot" I seems someone like Paul participates with the physical but misses the heart and soul. how sad

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Dee, Thomasville, NC — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 19:28:05 GMT

Boy, it is incredible to see and hear all the hypocrisy as it relates to relationships in particular and life in general. Paul Janka is being truthful about what he wants from a relationship; good sex and a good time. I'm well aware of the psychological and health risks of multiple sex partners but adults have to be responsible for their health and their choices. More than anything, I think Paul destroys the fantasy and mythology that many women are taught concerning sexuality and dating; some men are content to date and do not want a wife and children, although I believe a good many do. My view is that most people are very uncomfortable with people who are honest and truthful about their feelings and intentions; most people are operating under the standard societal mode of "political correctness-itis", which is manipulative and dishonest from the start. There are MANY undercover Paul Janka's in the world; can YOU handle the truth?

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Doc Lou Winchester, Va — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 19:28:09 GMT

Well said! Michele Varady, Pleasant Ridge, Michigan You nailed that one to the core.

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Steve, Temecula, CA — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 19:35:16 GMT

Women seem to be upset at this man, but the women who are interested in him should assume some responsibility for their choices. He doesn't appear to be a lire and he's not that clever. Many woman would rather buy into the fantasy of trying to fix this guy because he is exciting, dangerous and a challenge, rather than find a good man.

I feel sorry for this guy because he doesn't get that he has bought into a pop-culture media driven idea of dating. He doesn't know how to exist in a real relationship. To top it off he was stupid enough to write about and go on TV.

I feel sorry for the women who date him for the same reasons.

Stop man hating. It takes two dysfunctional people to make a fruitless relationship.

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Pat, New York, New York — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 19:43:55 GMT

I watched tne entire interview, twice.

1: Never does Paul say he wants to hurt anybody, despite being repeatedly baited by Meredith. I was surprised at her, I thought she had more class and journalistic integrity than to go there. She set intelligent reporting back a few years; pitiful.

2: Never does Paul say that he's only interested in bedding the women, he clearly says he wants dating variety and that if he was to meet somebody who meets his personal criteria he's very open to a longer term and meaningful, spiritual and even familial relationship. That his life goal is marriage and family.

3: Where does it say a person is supposed to only date and bed one woman? (religions keep your rules to yourselves here) Isn't the object of dating to gain a more clear understanding of what you like and what you DONT like in order to move to the next phase of emotional development in a relationship? If its not really fun or if the sex isn't hot, why open up for more hurt? Why invest more time and money?

4: Why do so many people herein assume that Paul's dates are going to be crushed and destroyed? After one or two dates and a romp in the hay? Why is there no discussion of the leagues and hoardes of men who have been dated for a meal, the theater tickets, the weekend ski trip, as eye/arm candy for a party or their sister's wedding and then dumped by the following Tuesday? I think women are far more calloused in terms of being "selective" about dating and have nearly zero feelings of remorse for the poor slobs who think they've fallen in love or found "her" only to realize when she doesn't return his calls that he was only the penis of the week. I've heard it over and over and over from so many unmarried men that they have a hard time telling the difference between the liars and the genuine ones because women are conditioned and trained to lie in order to get what they want. WOMEN invented fake hair color, fake eyelashes, makeup, padded undergarments, fake breasts, fake orgasms and LOTS of women fake love in order to have jewels, trips, cars, even offspring. I know a few men who later realized they were little more than a meal-ticket and sperm donor; they were targeted for their looks, their brains, their earning power and their legacy/inheiritance/power.

5: Both Paul and the Doctor were well spoken but dancing clearly through the insinuations and such of Meredith. To engender Paul as a casanova was inappropriate on behalf of the Doctor. Meredith seemed to almost trip on her enthusiasm to deride and insult Paul. Meanwhile, did anybody miss that this was obviously Paul's initial book hook media foray. He is sophisticated enough to realize this interview will stir some controversy. If you paid close attention, Paul alludes to what he "wrote" and refers to the interveiw as "the piece" because he's savvy about where this might take him. He's a writer promoting a book deal.

Ladies. this really isn't about you at all. All this is about is yet another pop "how to" manual for guys to try and figure out how to get what they THINK they want and/or THINK they need or THINK they deserve our of their "love life." Every person certainly has the right to try and enjoy their life and relationships. The "off the deep end" narcissistic personality disorder zealots and wounded souls who are trying to spin this up into some vicious rape story are only mongering fear and hatred. This is about having fun, not hurting women. Paul, lose the scruffy beard, it only scrapes the inside of the thighs.

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anonymous, Birmingham, Alabama — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 19:45:35 GMT

I believe this man suffers from Sexual addiction/Intimacy disorder. I wished there would have been a Doctor on that would have talked more about that issue. This is not normal behavior and it really bothered me that it is being made out to be innocent fun and casual sex. Sex addiction is becoming a problem world wide. It has nothing to do with women he is not honest with them. They look for vulnerable women and take advantage of them. They don’t do it because it’s fun to have sex. It’s like a crack head that needs crack. They need the dopamine there body produces each time they have sex. It’s a very sad and dark life to live, that ends in tragedy most of the time.

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An eye witness — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 19:52:00 GMT

I live next door to an older version of Paul. We have been neighbors for years and I have listend to all his tales of the women he has dated. His take on this is "Men are meant to sow their seed in as many partners as possible". He is very charming, intelligent and well spoken just as Paul and yes he has turned that charm on me and it is very hard to resist when anyone (not just good looking) tells you how attractive you are and treats you like there is no one in the world quite like you - but as someone earlier said about NPR it is always for their benefit and there is little thought of the havoc they can create in the emotional feelings of the women they date and ultimately leave wondering what happened. The downside of this for women would be that after several brushes with this type of man - trust for a more emotionally stable man would be hard to give freely as well as one's perception of their personal worth diminished.

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Beth P — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 20:00:13 GMT

Paul Janka as I see him: puerile and misguided - he doesn't seem to have ever experienced true intimacy with a woman. He may have deeper needs, perhaps he is a latent homosexual. Whatever the case, why do we care what this guy thinks? I don't find anything here ground breaking, must be a slow news week

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Karma, Tampa, FL — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 20:04:00 GMT

Paul - you are a great looking guy, smart, successful..but I have to ask, is there anything below the surface?

It's true that you are meeting all these women. You are getting physical satisfaction and company, but when its all said and done, you're ALONE. In the grand scheme of things, you stuck at the same point and will repeat the same cycle over and over again. Variety is great in life, but at some point to have to move on. That's how you grow as a person.

At this point you could make the argument that I could settle down with a woman, but be careful, my friend, of a little thing called Karma. What comes around, goes around.

Redeem Yourself...you are intelligent enough to know how....care about how you indirectly hurt someone

good luck

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Jennifer, Pittsburgh, PA — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 20:15:39 GMT

The fact that a person would waste so much of their time on empty relationships is very sad. Living life on the surface is easy but unrewarding. Anyone can become a Casanova and anyone with low enough esteem can be seduced by their charm. Creating something real, worthwhile and fulfilling takes patience and trust and a willingness to put someone's needs ahead of your own. So this guy perfers to live on the surface and not establish any real connection with a woman. To each their own. I don't think that he has grown the maturity needed to create and maintain a serious relationship. I just hope that someday he wakes up and realizes that there is so much more to life.

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L Lewis — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 20:20:07 GMT

He sounds like an Ass, but for a male that is not unusual. However, he also seems to be honest. I choose honesty anyday.

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SB, WInchester, VA — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 20:26:42 GMT

Women go for him because of the challenge that he presents. Sure he is being up front saying that he doesn't want to be pinned down but that flips a little swich in most women who think "I could make him settle down." Something about tamming the beast makes women go for this and eventually he will be bored with most women as soon as he has gotten what he wants. Eventually he will settle down or be the creepy old man hitting on younger women in a bar somewhere. Although Casanova was a scoundrel and we loved him for it so I can't blame this guy for trying it too.

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Mark Bergen, Kitchener, Ontario. — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 20:29:41 GMT

This would've been a much better segment if a female equivalent was on the show as well. It depicted men as once again, the sleezy gender. Sex addicts come in all types, which I agree he is one. But in his case, making women the victim only takes away from the equal and intellegent beings they are. I'm sure he has issues as maybe do the women who sleep with him, but lets not demonize them all. If this segment came out in the 70's we would all be laughing at it's puritanical view. Today we pathologize it. I understand that but it puts too many people into the victim mode of thinking.

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-S Sarasota, FL — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 20:36:09 GMT

Everyone has the right to want what they want and to try to get it. This guy is no different and I don't understand why his wants are on the Today show for judgement. We could all learn a lesson here. Figure out what we want and go for it without reservation, without apology.

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Anonymous, Rochester, Minnesota — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 20:39:19 GMT

This has definately driven me to comment on how visibly empty this man is.. and every man that thinks he is a "casanova"...get a life. I predict he has an unhappy and tormented soul...and he was not raised with self esteem and inner confidence. I pray that he realizes he needs more than split second satisfacton from women...and the life he is leading is only hurting himself. He needs to grow up and be a man.If you are only used to the pornograghic images on your computer..and need that constant"variety"...you can bank on a life of shame. If I were his mother I would be embarrassed.
P.S. Shave and get a haircut!..and say your prayers

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Ernest, Lake Jackson, Texas — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 20:42:54 GMT

Someone is speaking up for a lot of "weak" women. I doubt Paul ever forced or felt he needed to "trick" a woman into bed. A poll should have been conducted on the women being discussed and determined how many felt "used." I also hope he loves Jesus, uses protection, and calls his mother.

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Rhonda — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 20:44:28 GMT

First, in the interest of full disclosure, I am 53 years old, happily married and not in the dating arena. In my younger years, I was blessed with what many people considered to be "model's" beauty and figure. More than once I was the recipient of a line of baloney about spending lots of time together, perhaps a future, etc, just to get me where they wanted me to be. I would much rather have had an honest, real man like Paul. Nothing wrong with a little casual fun for both sexes.

I'm sorry that some of the ladies Paul has dated got hung up, but, quite frankly, that's their problem. He did not mislead them; they misled themselves. Many people don't really listen to what's being said to them -- they only hear what they want to hear. These women need to get real! He never promised you tomorrow -- lighten up and enjoy. Men like Paul can turn out to be the ones that give you some of your most memorable experiences.

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Traci V Elmira NY — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 20:46:04 GMT

I am a 36 year old woman from N.Y. I have had the pleasure of leading the same lifestyle as Paul is leading. I have met multitudes of men and couple, many have been the greatest people I have ever met in my entire life. Of course if "I" being a woman went on tv to tell my story the response would have been a little different (slut). I was very suprised that the topic of safe sex was not addressed. I commend Paul for being upfront and honest with the woman that he is with. If you are honest and upfront and someone gets hurt.... there is only one person to blame. Way to go Paul... keep up the good work!

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Derek L., Miami, FL — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 20:46:34 GMT

Paul was very honest in what he said. From what he said, he doesn't mislead any of the women he deals with. He tells them upfront what he's looking for, so any woman who develops feelings for him does so at her own risk. And he's right, he's not responsible for anyone's feelings as long as he is hoest from the very beginning.

My guess is the women who get hurt are the ones who think they can change him or any man, and when that change doesn't happen, their feeling get hurt and they blame him when it was their own fault.

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Steve Blondstone, Burbank, CA — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 20:47:21 GMT

I thought Paul was very articulate, well spoken, non confrontational, intelligent and honest. Paul is overcharged and oversexed. So many comments on here discuss his good looks, when in reality there are plenty of good looking men who could not live his lifestyle even if they choose. I too feel sorry for Paul in his shallow existance, unable to give love and recieve love. I feel that anyone who feels the need to discuss the number of women he has had is trying too hard and may have orintation issues. Unbelievable! Are there no people out there who have morals and values anymore? Casanova or scoundrel...really doesn't matter, whether the general public agrees or disagrees, thats no excuse to badger a person the way Mr. Janka just was. Please know that all women, single or otherwise, are not "putty" in men's hands.

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Matt, Pennsylvania — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 20:57:57 GMT

What amazes me is that there seems to be a "dis-order" label for every bit of behavior out there. I think the interviewers were extremely unprofessional, and it was unfair of them to try and convince him that he need "help" in order to "cure" himself. I commend Paul for his honesty with himself and with the women he comes into contact with. I would argue that he lives a much healthier lifestyle than most married couples in this country.

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Shadchan-Shacdhun NYC — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 21:02:16 GMT

The BIG question here is as follows;
Are people responsible for their own feelings when dating?

More questions
Do women have more false ideas on dates?
What are the women thinking when they are going up to his apartment?
When are women going to get it, that having sex before marriage is not going to guarantee them a spouse?
When are women going to stop this facade that they didn't only want sex?

I agree with the all the men and women above that Paul was honest and straight forward. The interviewers goofed big time.

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RT Green, Louisville KY — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 21:12:40 GMT

I found him to be a very articulate man. However, I found his argument to be very juvinile saying men like variety b.c that is what society has installed on us, look at playboy ect., and that is his excuse. I've dated a man like that, and broke up with him. He said all the right things he's in pharmacy school right now actually. In the end however, after all casanova talk, I found him boring and dense after a couple weeks. When you ask a guy like that why? their best answer is based on his looks, and society. In the end though it seems to me like middle school kids in puberty who just think about sex. They havn't grown up to see what a relationship is and responsiblity. Pathetic actually.

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Karen, Westfield, New Jersey — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 21:14:27 GMT

Paul knows exactly what he is doing. He takes risks, comes on strong, probably says all the things a girl likes to hear and gives her a lot of attention (which we all love), he "just has fun", then when he realizes that she doesn't fullfill his "fantacy perfect woman image", he moves on to the next victim. Woman: don't jump on a fast-moving train, you'll just get thrown off!

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Van, Tampa, FL — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 21:14:59 GMT

Give me a break! No matter where this guy graduated from, he has learned the art of how to manipulate women with words. He speaks of himself in the third person, he's a self-proclaimed "casanova" and he's using women as subjects for a documentary that he hopes will be made into a movie one day and guess what - he's been given the best of publicity on the TODAY SHOW! How about next time you choose another bum from the streets of New York, clean him up, put him on the show and see how many other women can be manipulated with just looks and scripted words.

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Scotty C., Los Angeles, CA. — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 21:15:58 GMT

If people can get off there soapbox and quit being so damned insecure they would realize what this man is doing is completely honest and I find "actually" a little integrous. When people say he is using females to get what he wants, "I" think he is giving the opposite sex a chance to do just that- to get they want and be a little selfish themselves. Insecure people(which I believe for arguments sake are a lot of us) misread and judge because they don't have the confidence to deal with this type of activity. I believe it is 100% ok to be honest for your own selfish gain, and as long as you are being forthright in your actions and words, there is no foul play.If you can't see that for absolute fact and opportunity, don't screw around (women and men alike). I also believe this type of behavior and activity is disconnected from emotions and is totally separated from physical, in both attraction and needs. I have been on both sides of the fence and I actually still have female friends that were once "flings". Being able to do that;I think that's the best part. And yes, I now have a girlfriend and I am completely happy (and forthright) with her at every level, to include knowing what I have been and how I think and believe. There is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with what this gentleman does. And although I love Meredith, she capitalized on a VERY small percentage of what I feel are truly just "insecure" women who need to own up to there own fantasies gone wrong.

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Cody Gore, Mapleton, UT — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 21:19:48 GMT

NOTE! Ever heard of a razor? A comb? Get a life dude...

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Cody Gore (Traci V. Elmira's friend) — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 22:06:51 GMT

Paul is an incredibly evocative character introducing salient issues to the public discourse. I can't wait to write to my congressman and/or congresswoman about Paul...and see what they think.

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LaJuan,Albany,Ga — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 22:08:39 GMT

I'm really disappointed in the responses I read from people who seem to not care about the damage this man and women who are out there using people at any cost.I really look at them as being predators waiting on the next victim willing or unwilling it is wrong.So no matter how beautiful and intelligent you are as the old cliche goes what goes around comes around.

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Would'nt give him the time of day. Knoxville TN — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 22:10:14 GMT

Seriously, I've had better looking garbage men. Why are so many people assumming his education and looks make his behaviour acceptable just because he's upfront about it. Sounds like a narcissistic jerk to me. I wonder if his attorney has ever heard the words "date rape"?

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RT Green, Louisville, KY — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 22:17:00 GMT

Paul knows exactly what he is doing. No matter where this guy graduated from, he has learned the art of how to manipulate women with words. If people can get off there soapbox and quit being so damned insecure they would realize what this man is doing is completely honest and I find "actually" a little integrous. Ever heard of a razor? A comb? Get a life dude...

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msm, totonto,canada — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 22:21:39 GMT

Why are people so upset?
In today's world, as always, there are Males and Females both after the same thing, casual sex.
Women look and men hunt, sometimes they find each and sometimes one or the other gets hurt, but they move on.
Sex is fun, looking after your health should be paramount and if something ontoward should occur such it up and bear the consequences.

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Willow, allentown, pa — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 22:59:27 GMT

Paul obviously has a problem with his self image and sees his value interms of the conquest of women.

Narcissitic Personality Disordered people are those who lack an ability to feel empathy for others. I think this young man is a prime example.

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J.F. Ct. — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 23:16:54 GMT

Out of the mouth of....'IT'
"I understand that women have a biologically-driven need to feel connected with a man before sex, but the reality is men have myriad schemes, personas and other illusions to shield their true selves from a woman whom they want to screw."

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Sue, Berkshire, Massachusetts — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 23:29:01 GMT

I think this just reinforces the generally accepted view that (most) men and (most) women approach sex in very different ways. In my (female) experience, casual sex just isn't nearly as pleasurable or satisfying as sex in a loving relationship. But I believe that there are many men who find pleasure and satisfaction in casual or even anonymous sex. So where does that leave us? We're biologically different. Society and biology are not perfectly attuned. How do we make them work together, or can we?

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Jane Deer Anywhere, USA — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 23:30:38 GMT

Fortunately, I avoided tools like this and found real love with a truly genuine man who loves me back. Love is not a business deal. This guy makes me sick. Intimacy issues??? This probably works well because most women are dumb enough to think they can change a man. My experience is usually that you get a little less than what you see in the beginning. Once you are intimate, you lose objectivity and the "frog" who just wants to jump you seems like a "prince" in disguise. RUN FROM THIS IDIOT. BLAST HIS SMUG MUG ALL OVER THE TV SO ONE DATES THIS DOG.

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geglesiaspennsylvania — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 23:31:20 GMT

This is just my opinion , but I don't think he really likes women. If he did he would'nt treat them like that. I think deep down inside he really hates them--because of some deep rooted problem he has. I think he should seek therapy. I also think it is because (he is a slut) that he feels he can treat other people like sluts also. And I don't think he is Gay, because Gay men for the most part, are very sensitive and caring about people's feelings; and usually have more respect for women than most heterosexual men do.

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Amber M — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 23:31:20 GMT

As a woman with an androgynous mind, I can say that someone like Paul that is upfront, honest, and confidently pursues his desires is definitely a turn on!
He's not ignorant as to think he will never fall for a woman, just honest that his current intentions are sex. I don't see anything wrong with that. If more people could be this honest with their true desires, there would be a lot less heart break in the world.
GO GET 'EM TIGER!

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MG Williams, Honolulu, HI. — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 23:34:53 GMT

I think that a woman who knows herself and knows what she wants has an obligation to herself to hold to her own values. Like anthing else we do in our life to be successful, set goals and stick to them. Physical intimacy cannot replace emmotional intimacy. Paul appears to be aware of this and as such, chooses physical intimacy over emmotional. Who is to say that there is some thing wrong with this? Just because some one has a a PhD, does not make that person qualified to determine what is most conducive to one person's needs. Paul, which he admits, will find (hopefully) a relationship that challenges him, nurtures him, and pushes him to grow as an individual and he will leave his playboy lifestyle behind. Until that time, he is learning what he likes and does not like in the women he meets and as such, will be able to make a better informed decision of who he wants to be with in the future. My father was known as a cassanova in his time and when he met my mother, his life changed. I have never known a man to be more attentive, dedicated, or loyal to a woman. So much so, I have VERY high expectations of any man who wants to be part of my life. When I asked him what makes his relationship work for him he answered that my mom is dynamic. She changes and grows as a person and there is still a novelty about her that he continues to be facinated by. His best advice to me, know myself and who I am and always pursue that first.

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Mark, Dallas, Texas — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 00:19:04 GMT

I think he was just hitting on Meredith.

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CZ, Spokane, WA — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 00:21:52 GMT

I think it's obvious why women are attracted to our Casanova - it is because he is dead sexy, magnetizing. You could tell what he was all about just by the way he looked at the camera. It's all about the sex, honey. Let me be clear, however, I would choose not to engage with this person. He is wrong for anyone looking for any type of genuine relationship. He was completely unapologetic and honest about his dating behaviors. Anyone who takes offense needs to realize that being with a man like this is a choice. He's not prince charming, and if that's not apparent from the get go you have a lot to learn.

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dave, fort worth texas — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 00:27:30 GMT

honestly, i'm just glad i don't play that game anymore.

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GoodnessFollowsMe, Snoqualmie WA — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 00:49:02 GMT

The kind of women that are attracted to a "dog" such as this are the ones whom are not sure of themselves and are always looking for "Mr. Right" in all the wrong places. Yes, I agree with others whom have called Paul as arrogant. I'm sure he won't be getting as much dates after the women sees his face on TV and what he bragged about!

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Laurri McHenry, IL — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 00:49:12 GMT

I wonder what his mother thinks.....

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Mandy,Conway,AR — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 00:56:22 GMT

Placing my morals beside,

These responses are unbelivable to me. You are really trying to inform me that he is not hurting anyone? How can you narrow minded peeople actually believe this? If nothing else this man assuredly has HPV and has passed it in one of its strains on to a victim somewhere out there. Condoms do not stop this disease. HPV is the leading cause of ovarian cancer in women. Would you want him with your sister or daughter?

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Jerilynn, Westland, MI — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 01:40:55 GMT

He's a boor! For a Harvard educated man he has no bearing. To brag about your sexual conquests is disgusting. He sat on that show with his legs spread wide open. On his preview video he looked like he needed a shower and a shave. Hopefully, for the woman's sake they practice safe sex. He's not even good looking. He sounds like he has a sexual addition. I wouldn"t take a second look at him He's the type who would cheat on his wife. JERK

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Nikki, Edmonton, Canada — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 02:06:52 GMT

As long as he is up front with women about his intentions (and practices safe sex), what is wrong with wanting to have a good time with another consenting adult?

I'm sure that any woman who has gotten hurt by his actions had convinced herself that she was going to be the one to 'change his ways' - women are capable of only hearing what they want to hear when it comes to love.

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Rich Seaton Palm Beach Fl — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 02:25:26 GMT

I agree that Love is a Long sweet dream and marriage is the alarm clock ! However after dating alot of women as a MBA Millionare , I want to keep my net worth intact and not lose it in a rushed marriage.I only take my clothes off for one woman at a time.

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Norma Rodriquez, Lubbock, Texas — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 02:29:47 GMT

I see this type of behavior all the time from men and women, married and single. I think Paul made an excellent point when he highlighted the fact that men who are married and claim to be happily married utilize Playboy, porn, strip clubs, etc. All of these listed things and then some are feeding men what they desire secretly or sometimes not so secretly. As he said in the interview, which was not picked up by Meridith, men desire variety, which they get whether married or not, which is also true with women. If you took a poll in just your studio, you would find that men contribute to these type of items, married or not. I did not think that Meridith conducted herself as a good reporter, which was very distracting. It seemed as if she was attacking this man just because he was being honest. I agreed with the Dr. that this man was very good at what he did and I also agreed with her that one cannot assume that no one is going to get hurt. Paul may reconsider the fact that these women actually fall for men like him even though they know the only purpose they are there is to fulfill the now desire. Also, people who engage in casual sex make themselves vulnerable and should re-evaluate the word "casual."

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Jane, NY, NY — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 03:07:59 GMT

Ha, ha, ha, what is this guy doing on t.v.?! I laughed out loud when I saw that he lives in NYC; it figures, since there are way too many guys here who fancy themselves "Casanovas"! It's amazing how even the biggest geek thinks he deserves a super model with a PhD for a wife in this town. Whatever his motives, I seriously doubt he is oh so "honest" prior to or in the heat of the moment, more like after she's left her earrings behind and over the phone. He seemed sophmoric and boring to me, and the ladies he is able to fool are probably just as lame. Morality aside, he is developing a bad habit that will be hard to break should he ever attempt to settle down. Will Meredith be checking back with him when he's bald with a beer gut?

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bianca, los angeles, — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 03:47:27 GMT

honestly, he was pretty cheesy. articulate, educated, and good-looking - that's why women fall for him. plus, he had a certain energy that might attract some women but thank god meredith did not fall for that! hahhaha.

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Ernesto Houston, Texas — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 03:58:21 GMT

Excuse me, did she say "unsuspecting" women. I am 68, sexually active, and have not met but one "unsuspecting" woman. I think she is now sixty five and still "unsuspecting." I hate to burst anyone's bubble, but women actually enjoy sex as much as men, even after all the inticimacy, love, emotional dependency verbiage bantered about these days. I imagine there are only about fifty million women in this country who wish they were "serial daters."

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Reality — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 04:06:07 GMT

Reality is...

1. women in America have 'choices' like saying "no thanks"
2. Paul J (PJ) does speak for many [not all] male species w/ normal testerone levels, that is
3. both parties get hurt less knowing upfront what they mutually agreed to

If I were single today like PJ, I'd be asking for the same thing: No commitments, proof's in the pudding so let's see the goods.

If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. At least, you'd know early before feelings get even deeper or before getting married And, relationship is NOT all about mental & emotional bonding either as many bloggers emphasize!!! It's also about physical connection too! sexual compatibility /chemistry in the bedroom. Actually, it's the core of long, happy marriages per many studies. Yes - even for women, that's equally important as it is for men.

And, I'm a woman.

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Valerie Scott — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 04:24:39 GMT

Having just been duped briefly by a narcissistic sociopath, I think this guy is a total fraud. Did anyone notice how he was sitting? I think he was trying to get the other guest to find him attractive! He is clearly not for real and his attitude is totally unacceptable.

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Donna, Huntington Station, N.Y. — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 04:37:59 GMT

Reading thru some of the comments I can only add that this man is having sex with women who let him, let's keep that in mind. What I found despicable that this man not only wants to get married (someday) but HE think's he is father material. God I hope for devine intervention. What values will he teach his children one can only wonder. Just becouse you can does not mean you should.

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Renee, Reston, VA — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 05:07:29 GMT

Paul has intimacy issues and all the woman he is conning have to face this. He is only out there to use and abuse woman for his own satification. Can we say narcisstic personality disorder. I married a man like this but did not find out until I became pregnant that he had about 40 other woman around, can we say at the very least STD and AIDs. What is going on in this world, woman, men we really need to educate ourseleves on narcisstic personality disorder, it is a very sickening dieses that it is very hard to heal. I think more shows like this should be done, NPD needs to be well known, you will not know about it till it is too late, these people come into your lives and leave just a quick and destruction is what they cause. Paul needs serious help, all he did by getting on the Today show was get more Narcisstic Supply.

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Haris, Toronto, Canada — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 06:04:13 GMT

This video is hillarious. There are women who are just like Paul as well. Going out with the intention of soely meeting and being committed is plain sad. He goes out, has fun, has sex, and if she's really special, then he'll commit himself. Its not as if he "tricks and manipulates" women to get into bed with them. Both men and women have sexual fantasies and its easier for men to act on them, because society would simply label a female a "slut" for following her natural sexual desires.
Respect to Paul for being totally un-reactive and being respectfull in spite of being attacked unconditionally.

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Derek — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 06:14:26 GMT

As a man who's been in the dating scene, I found this interview to be a bit funny. It basically consisted of a couple of women sitting this guy down to shame him and break him of his ways...all because he's not falling in line with their sanitized version of the status quo. He never said he was out to hurt anyone, and made it clear that he's honest about his intentions. Yet they made a concerted effort to portray him as a "defective" man and a user of women.

I have a few things to say in response to the interview:

1) Women are rarely "victims" in the dating world. They are on average far more socially adept than men and can often easily discern a man's intentions from the beginning. Meredith and her guests attempted to paint women as victims. Nice try. Men who date know better than to believe this myth, or the myth that just being "nice" will help you get the girl. Being a man and not apologizing for it, which is what Paul Janka is doing, will help you get the girl, whether you want a relationship or sex.

2)Women like sex and want sex nearly as much as men do. Why do you think that for all of his forwardness, that Paul Janka has slept with so many women? He's learned to communicate and negotiate with them on their level, and isn't afraid to be honest.

In my experience, a significant number of women like and respond to this approach, as evidenced on the show by Janka's success with women. As controversial as his methods may seem, most of his comments are actually spot on with regards to how women react to men in dating scenarios. Women don't seem to want men who easily bow to their whims that have no sexual energy about them.

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Jane Doe, NYC — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 07:51:28 GMT

All interesting points above -- but I'm more distracted by the "wide stance" as he's being interviewed -- are his family jewels so large that he practically needs to perform a split in order to sit comfortably? The doctor lady looked scared that his knee was going to touch hers.

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Derek — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 08:00:58 GMT

I recind my previous comments about Paul Janka being honest...it appears that he is not. After searching the net for his material, this appears to be his writing:

http://blog.juliaallison.com/Images/Paul%20Janka%20-%20Getting%20Laid%20in%20NYC.pdf

In it he describes attempting to get girls drunk to make it easier to sleep with them. To be clear, I don't have a problem with men being honest and up front about their intentions with women, but using alcohol to grease the wheels makes you a cheat and a predator at best. While I'm all about men succeeding in dating, I really can't endorse someone who would write about doing something like that.

If this is his writing, he's not a casanova, he's just a dishonest guy masquerading as a forward-thinking "modern" man. Sorry dude, real men don't use lowball tactics like that.

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Karma Wilson, Melbourne, Australia — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 09:02:48 GMT

I would have to agree re the comments on narcissistic personality disorder which is becoming more and more prevalent. I would recommend the TODAY SHOW do a feature on this as a matter of urgency. The illness is little knowmn, greatly misunderstood and the consequences of the behaviour extremely destructive and far reaching. It is time that programs like yours bring these sorts of issues into the open so that innocent people do not potentially ruin their lives. With greater knowledge about this severe and common 21st century mental illness a lot of destruction could be prevented, and parents who are at risk of abusing their kids (which could be just through neglect or over attention) may choose to take a more moderate path to parenting.

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Vj , singapore — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 09:15:53 GMT

I dated a man like Paul once..fun, interesting and had a aim. I think there is nothing wrong with dating men for short-term fun as long as both of you are on the same page

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Rose — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 09:37:49 GMT

Well, he's cute. And he does look like a heartbreaker.

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Laura, Santa Barbara, CA. — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 12:20:41 GMT

This guy is definitely a SELF-proclaimed Casanova. I saw his interview. He came across as a scruffy, self-indulgent child with little backbone. I would never call him a Casanova.

Just for grins, I also had an opportunity to read his "manifesto". I found it laughable that he gave himself this name. It's quite sad actually when you look at the stats he included. No "real" Casanova would brag about the following information:

By his own estimation at age 30, he takes 30 women out to dinner and he only "seals the deal" twice.

He FINALLY manages to “seal the deal" with 40 out of 70 women but he has to get them drunk first.

He talks a lot about doing little to no talking when setting up the date and on the actual date itself. Clearly his communication skills are not what they need to be and have failed him on many occasions. A real woman loves a great communicator. Mr. Janka is no “silver-tongued” devil.

I was also curious as to why the Today show included a sex addiction therapist in the segment with him. It became clear with these statements from his manifesto.

He brags "I have had up to 4 to 5 women in a week and sometimes 2 different ones in the same night."

He also has a rating system for women that only a cold, heartless predator would use.

He refers to women as their body part (p****)

As a result of his statements, I can only conclude the following:

1.) A “real” Casanova never talks about his conquests. He is NO Casanova.
2.) A “real” Casanova does not need to get his women drunk. He knows women and knows what to say and do, to “tear their walls” down.
3.) He clearly has not mastered the “art” of seduction. It is an art.
4.) He is an immature boy who has nothing better to do than to play games.
5.) He has an addiction problem for sure.
6.) The fact that he feels the need to be in control, screams “insecure male”. A secure man does not feel the need to control his female counterparts. He takes it all in stride and manages “himself” appropriately (ie. like a grown up) with no games.
An adult male rolls with the punches. He doesn’t feel the need to manipulate. He directly communicates what his goals and needs are. If they have honorable intentions, grown up women will respect this every time.

Last but not least, I wonder how his mother feels about his attitude towards women. I wonder how he would like it if his mother dated predators like him.

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Amanda - Cincinnati, OH — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 13:54:13 GMT

I am wondering why, with all of the comments from the ladies out there who do not see a problem with paul's dating habits, that he would feel the need not to be upfront and say simply:
"Look, I am simply here to meet someone and have casual sex and a good time. If it turns out we have a lot in common and decide to make a relationship of this, even better".
There are obviously enough women who do not feel like this is wrong that are available for this type of releationship.
So say themselves they would date you.
Have it in your heart(Or your groin) not to throw the ones who might be looking for "the one" who really do not feel the need to play the game or even more so, tying to live a Christian life into this mix.
There are women who have been deeply hurt in the past whom are trying to find a caring loving man in which paul easliy fits the role.
There are again obviously enough NON-Christian attiudes for you to get your fill.
Read the blogs before.
Looks like by being 100% honest upfront, you will still get your fill of lovers.
Leave the rest of us be.

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DHK Louisville, KY — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 14:11:51 GMT

All men are "Casanovas" in their own minds. A mature woman will recognize the difference, therefore, leading you to wonder the age of the victims he perpetrates. It would make interesting television to hear from this so-called man's former long time girlfriend for surely she is wise. Personally I did not find him physically good looking and in fact found him unattractive especially once he opened his mouth and after I saw him sitting there in the child birth position, I mean come on, please show some dignity, it was obvious your sex organ did not require that much breathing room. I found him extremely immature, commitment phobic and with an unrealistic elevated opinion of himself. The manner in which he turned and looked toward whomever was addressing him was not endearing either, it was more pathetic, in my opinion. My deepest sympathy to his mother, with a word of encouragment to her as well.....there are plenty of mental health professionals in your son's area.

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Amanda - Blanchester, OH — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 14:33:19 GMT

Oh the frustration.
I am no prude. I like sex. But I am a Christian and I know the law of the bible.
The law was not written for the "old times" and to be changed as we see fit.
Is this a new time? Absolutely but it is not a new law.
Last time I looked God did not, nor did he send Jesus to come back and change the word. Or write new versions.
Man has changed it to fit his life. It states in the Bible that any man who changes the word will not be saved or forgiven. Don’t believe me? Then you don’t know the bible.
Casual, premarital sex is not okay.
We constantly make new versions of the bible to satisfy our current wants because we think the KJV of the bible was for "old days". My mind is not closed . I know the truth.
Sorry folks. God's law is written.
The law is the law. Not to be changed by us to fit our lives. In any circumstance.
If you love the right woman she will 100% do whatever it takes to spice up the bedroom with her husband when that day comes. She will join you at football games and playing in the snow. She will love, adore and cherish you and your manhood. Then she will join you in the bedroom for a fantastic ending. She will bear your children.
Yes it is a new time, but it’s the same law in the Bible.
Cherish women Paul. We are awesome creatures when given the opportunity to soar. The ability to love and be loved.
For one day, if you are willing to be forgiven, God will bless you with a daughter.

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Drew, Ft. Lauderdale, FL — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 15:48:02 GMT

100, that's it. So if we equate that in daily terms, he's 32, if he went to Harvard, he probably didn't start getting laid until he was in his early 20's. So 100 women in 12 years, that's less than 9 seductions a year. When you get to 200, we can talk.

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Jane Doe, Michigan — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 16:20:57 GMT

There wouldn't be any guys like Paul or a need for agencies to help people like Paul if women would abstain from having sex until that wedding ring was on their finger.

Then imagine, Paul and his wife could have sex all day long everyday.

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So tired of men like Paul , Gainesville, FL — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 16:21:39 GMT

One word comes to mind....
NARCISSIST

actually, make that 3 more words...
What a jerk !

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JCB, Billings, Montana — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 16:35:05 GMT

It is no wonder that Paul thinks that you should have sex first and relationship later...he has no intention of having a relationship at all. Not all women are looking for immediate marriage and not all men are only seeking sex. Most folks are looking for companionship, physical intimacy with someone they can trust and if they are fortunate, eventually love. It should come in that order too. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should just hop into bed with someone you don't know much about. Trust comes from time and even Paul admits you cannot know someone just from one date. However, he believes that having sex will teach you more than conversation. I would think the rise in STDs and depression would indicate an air of caution to anyone engaging in this behavior. And since when did quantity begin to outweigh quality? He sounds like a teenage boy - "I've been with 100 women with no commitment." Yikes! I can see how in a "free" society many will say he can do what he likes, but I would caution that the spread of HIV, herpes, chlamydia, gonnorhea, etc. occurred because so many folks thought they should be able to "do what they like" and unfortunately infected others in the process.

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Rollo Tomassi, Orlando, FL — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 16:45:29 GMT

Interesting how quickly the general populace will play junior psychologist when a Man goes on national television and refuses the safe-masculine, gender appropriate role all too many people expect. He doesn't fit the toothless male archetype, nor does he quite fit the ridicule-masculinity-Homer-Simpson-needs-a-woman-to-fix-him role. No, he's got a problem. He's an addict. He's got a personality disorder. And so we trot out the dried up feminine appropriate Doctor to spew her touchy-feely Carl Jung and Maslow all over the scoundrel, all the while trying to make some attempt at probing the mind of this sociopath! Gimme a break.

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Linda, Kenosha, WI — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 18:05:13 GMT

We are not witnessing anything "new or different" here people. This behavior has been going on since the dawn of existence. What a trip to bring it to the screen and make it seem weird or out of place...

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Markham Gartley, Isle of Palms, South Carolina — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 18:54:45 GMT

Paul Janka may be a seemingly nice guy who just happens to magically find no-strings attached relationships with hundreds of girls. The fact of the matter is he is justifying the girls that he hurts by blaming it on them. It is true that many girls out there are vulnerable and looking for Mr. Right. My question is; How can someone be so heartless?

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LT, usa — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 19:08:37 GMT

Being in "his honesty" not equate integrity....REALLY NOW , did he fully communicate it all out front to all these women--- my guess, if you managed to get ahold of all of them ....there are many many hurt women, who even watching this are are re-traumatized. We all have responsibility...my guess, his so called monogomaous relationships didn't last because of his behaviors.

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anonymous, chicago, IL — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 19:29:59 GMT

Wow! I was INCREDIBLY offended by this whole piece. OOh, look at the big bad man taking advantage of us poor little women. This is 2007 for gods sake - women do not need protection from sex. A sexual predator is a rapist, a molester, etc or at best someone who uses trickery and deceit to coerce someone into sexual relations. A guy attempting to charm girls into bed is no predator, he is just a guy. If a woman has sex with a man fairly quickly into there relationship, she does so because she is sexually attracted to him and not because she thinks she loves him -- those who say otherwise are simply afraid of what others will think of them. Buck up ladies, that skinny little arrogant man ain't taking advantage of no one!

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Austin Roberson; Tallahassee, FL — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 20:06:15 GMT

Ivan, those are misconceptions, to put it bluntly. Personally, none of those traits you mentioned trigger attraction in women by themselves. They help, however, there is much more to it. I have a website that can explain more (it is listed.) What he does though is not immoral to him. He said himself he doesn't lie to the women he dates, but both of those women were not open to what he was saying as he sat there and listened to everything they threw at him. I don't approve of how he was treated on that show, but he handled himself very well. Sad though the same cannot be said for the host and the doctor. Educate yourself men, this man has done it and so can you.

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Cindy Rogers, Ellensburg Wash — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 20:51:46 GMT

Paul undoubtably attracts sleezy women whom like to sleep around too. When Paul is old, alone and empty (with some kind of penis disease) he'll get what's coming to him. Shame of women who allow such a man to take advantage of them.

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K. Simms Woodstock, GA — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 21:29:40 GMT

If this guy only dated 2 women a year would he still be called a scoundrel or sex-addict? Is it the quantity that bothers you people? Go ahead, Paul. If you really are honest, date all the women in the world as far as I'm concerned. We aren't wired like lobsters.

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Scott Bogart — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 21:47:33 GMT

Paul is not a scoundrel at all. In fact, in listening to him, I find him to be honest and straight forward. If he were lying and manipulative, that would be another story, but that is not the case. "All is fair in love and war", and women play by this rule as much or more than men. He is right in saying that people are responsible for their own feelings. Otherwise, we take on the role of victims. Love his its risks. If you want to play, rule number one is you are responsible for your own heart. Don't extropolate.

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Hailey, Los Angeles, CA — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 22:27:54 GMT

After watching the segment, though I personally wouldn't want to know him, I had a "live and let live" attitude.

I followed the link to his writing above though, and if he wrote that, he is engaging in predatory behavior. He describes setting up an arrangement with bartenders to disguise his seltzer waters as alcoholic drinks. Then his date drinks alcohol and he doesn't --by the end of the night she is impaired and he isn't so he expects to be more likely to score. The writing sample makes him seem dishonest, predatory, pitiable, desperate and bitter all at the same time!

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Matt Damon — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 02:10:08 GMT

phew.. feminism is a joke.. clueless people always try to give you a hard time..

the interview was very one sided and had an obvious agenda..

also the "Doctor" said that "as I am good at being a doctor.. he is good at being a casanova"

so she implied that she was just putting up an act or "fronting" and isn't confident in her abilities as a doctor..

therefore contradicting and discrediting everything she said..

lofl.. that's what I have to say to this whole discussion..

lofl.. and

MATT DAMON!
_____

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NM, New York, New York — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 03:14:51 GMT

IT is refreshing to see someone so honest and up front. What he said makes permament sense - why not enjoy various experience until one has to settle down. It's funny how he completely outwitted Meredith and, as a result, the Today Show, had to bring him on and have another interviewer go after him with the same ridiculous expert. He outwitted and outcharmed everyone. A man should never have to apologize for being a man and enjoying meeting beautiful women despite what the Today Show might have you believe.

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Jean, Seattle, WA — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 08:37:59 GMT

Paul is pathetic. He has emotional ADD. It's too bad he is choosing to waste (and risk) his life and his supposedly well-educated brain living like an animal in heat.

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Amelia, New York, NY — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 22:45:43 GMT

Everyone on this blog that is praising him, has obviously not met him. He is a lying, misleading, typical playboy guy that thinks he can get away with sleeping with anyone he wants.
if you google his name, you can find the 17 page unpublished manual that he has already written.
In there, he proclaims he would get to the bar early, adn tell the bartender to make the girls drinks extra strong and serve him only tonic water. This way he gets the girls wasted and can take advantage of them easier. He is a total womanizer who takes advantage of girls...
HUGE A**HOLE.

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Lola, New York, NY — Fri, 14 Dec 2007 00:22:33 GMT

I'm sorry -- There are approximately 4 million women in the New York City area. So this guy sleeps with 100 of them. Percentage? .0025% of New York women have slept with this guy. Countless more have blown him off - his methods aren't foolproof. So he's a guy who brushes off rejection easily. Persistence is, in the dating world, usually rewarded either short-term in the bedroom, or long-term with a solid relationship, or worst-case scenario, with a restraining order. Heh. Go ahead, tell guys to move on to the next girl if you're not getting what you want, great. It saves women from having to say the same thing in a bar, coffee shop or on the street. It goes the same way for women, too. If you're not getting what you want, move on. Pretty simple. His whole thing is about getting laid in New York, and New York is a town of infinite possibility. You select someone or multiple people out of a large pool, and that's pretty much it.

Does anyone else think that it's sort of hilarious???

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Molly V. San Diego, California — Fri, 14 Dec 2007 01:42:51 GMT

I've met 2 guys that are like Paul. I don't wish to meet another one. I do understand that they want to live their single life that way but have you ever ask yourself this question: Is this sex or love-making?
and when you say that you are not responsible for their feelings, did you actually tell them that before you had sex with them? I mean to tell them that hey, we are just having sex therefore we are not making love?
Because what goes around comes around.

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Molly V, San Diego, CA — Fri, 14 Dec 2007 01:48:51 GMT

I would date him because he's so intelligent, good looking, he looks like he's really well mannered, but after if he told me about his wild life, I wouldn't date him...so I hope that this guy is honest with the women that he meets before he had sex with them and if those women are still okay, then its really not his fault, at least he's told them already. To PAUL: all women are not the same.

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Chris, Chester, PA — Fri, 14 Dec 2007 03:44:36 GMT

How many of you have seen a women get attracted to guys who are 'nice'. Women want guys like Paul! Find me an attractive women who wants a boring guy that offers a secure relationship. Ha ha I could't stop laughing while I typed that! Cheers.

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tucker boston ma — Fri, 14 Dec 2007 08:02:48 GMT

Paul is and has been my best friend 4 8 years. He stood by my side at my wedding and helped me through the worst of times when it ended. I never seen a man care more about any human guy or girl. It is not our fault woman dont like to be treated well if it was that easy we would do it.

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NM — Sat, 15 Dec 2007 19:20:23 GMT

Here is an idea for the Today Show: Instead of trying to psychoanalyze a man for simply following his libdido, it can analyze the numerous women who have fallen for his seduction act. Perhaps they came from broken homes (like the Today Show tried to point out with respect to Paul) and had Daddies that did not pay enough attention to them. Or maybe they are not victims at all and simply wanted the same thing that Paul wanted from the experience.

Here is another idea for the Today show: Let's have a show on the numerous women who date men for free dinners, concert tickets, and all expense paid vacations even though their interest level in the man is hovering somewhere around 10%. Is that right?

But the Today Show, like the rest of the media today, will never point the finger at the woman, Instead, they point the finger at something else, and it is usually the man (just look at any sitcome today). Funny, I thought the whole idea behind equality for the sexes was actual equality and that each sex was now responsible for his or her own actions. I guess that is where I was naive.

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Grant, Mineapolis, Minnesota — Sun, 16 Dec 2007 21:04:19 GMT

It seems to me after reading a lot of these posts is that many people are sort of demonifying this guy, and not actually looking at it from his perspective. To say he is a malignant narcissist says that he has no ethical considerations when dealing with other people, and he only cares for himself. I very highly doubt this. If this were the case he'd be raping some of these women, rather than having consensual sex with them. I was on a great deal of sports teams throughout high school and one in college, I know how these type of guys think. MOST of them DO ethically just justify their behavior through their beliefs that women enjoy sex just as much as they do, and they aren't emotionally hurt by their "slam bam thank you mam" type attitude. They've seen movies in which "one night stands" are the norm where the woman doesn't feel emotionally damaged afterwards. This leads them to an ethical justification of their behavior.
In essence what I'm saying is this. This man is a by-product of our culture's conventional wisdom that if a guy has sex with such a great deal of women he is NOT hurting anyone. Don't expect him to know the truth, that this does actually hurt these women. I doubt (prior to him coming onto this show) that a female friend of his told him that this HURTS THESE WOMEN!!! Personally I didn't know until a female friend of mine told me this! So, current or future mothers, tell your sons that this type of behavior can hurt these women. As for those women who aren't mothers, tell your guy friends that it hurts, and to never behave like this.

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Grant, Mineapolis, Minnesota — Sun, 16 Dec 2007 21:09:02 GMT

One last thing I left out of my last post. I've also noticed another fallicy in a lot of these posts. Many women it seems believe that he is left feeling empty, and even hurt himself. If this were the case he wouldn't have such a high opinion of himself. Don't apply the same rules to women as you would to men. The saying "men are from mars, women are from venus" isn't just a book, but closer to the truth than most of us believe. In the field of family and social science there has been research indictating that there is a biological difference between men and women's feelings after experiencing a "one night stand." I recall a resarcher from UWis Madison publishing an article that concludes testostrone flushes out the same biological connection that women feel, in men. I for one have encountered A LOT of men just like Paul, and I'm positive that atleast most of them don't feel empty after having a "one night stand".

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Laura, Orland Park, Illinois — Tue, 18 Dec 2007 05:40:12 GMT

I found him completely unattractive, and gross. Get a razor. It was just plain stupid. I call it DDT "Dirty Down There"

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JJ in LA — Tue, 18 Dec 2007 23:30:54 GMT

The guy is hot, educated and has a good career. He genes did good and he did good for himself . Did I mention he is young? What else should guys like him be doing? Banging stupid hot girls of course. He took care of business first ( education and career) now its time to have fun. When his internal clock tells him its time to get married an he CHOOSES someone, he will not have the curiousity to cheat. As long as he bags it everytime there should be no concern for an STD. I have 2 small boys and I can only hope they turn out to be like him. I will also advise my sons that with all the banging they will do later in life, theys should invest in gallons of latex paint and keep it by the bed.

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rsanders — Thu, 20 Dec 2007 07:27:49 GMT

Thank you all for writing your comments. This has been so entertaining. There is so much I would like to share but ya'll will just have to wait until my next book is published. Please excuse the lack of paragrahs and spelling here--but it is late and I am an old lady. What is it about Americans that we view sex so strangely? The comment made by the only guy from Canada is right--"What is the big deal?" It has been a long time since "free" sex in the sixties and "casual" sex in the seventies right on up to this very day yet we think this guy Paul is controversial? We don't know we are a hedonistic and an immoral society? Right now, Paul is happy because he knows his book will sell better. He managed to get really great, "free", advertising. After all this is a capitalist society. Ouch! This much honesty hurts!

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javagirl, miami, fl — Thu, 20 Dec 2007 19:44:38 GMT

Wow, such cynicism... not only in Janka but in so many comments. The war between the sexes seems focused on sex. And it IS a war, because this is about power and achieving one's own selfish agenda, with a slew of rationalizations and twisted meanings. Integrity does not mean being straightforward about wanting meaningless sex. It means having principles and values that go beyond selfish, self-absorbed objectives. A return to the rigid, judgmental morality of the 1950s is not the answer. Rather, there is such a thing as having character, and by that I do not mean "interesting." I mean doing the right thing, even when we would rather do something else. And for all the men who do not want to get "ripped off" by a woman, there is an easy solution - suggest a walk in the park.

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Diana Claire Stagner, New York, NY — Thu, 20 Dec 2007 20:22:51 GMT

If Mr. Janka used his talents of persuasion and negotiation in conjunction with his education, the contributions he could make to the world are limitless. How about speaking to others on a suicide hot line or enrolling those in power to guarantee health coverage for all children? The possibilities available for his gifts are endless: The United Nations, National Politics, and issues like racism, pollution, global warming, etc. I hope his next interviews with our media are about the tremendous good he has brought to our world. Too bad all he is promoting is his Excel sheet statistics. Like yesterday's newspaper, those statistics will soon be dumped out in the cold for recycling and forgotten. Mr. Janka, take a stand for yourself and your gifts. You have the capacity and the gifts to change the world.

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James Bond — Thu, 20 Dec 2007 20:26:08 GMT

This guy is my hero. I used used to try to be the nice guy--well, ya know where that got me--nowhere, just a "friend" to these girls. One day , I woke up and said: "I just don't care anymore" -- I know it is wrong, but I've been hurt and I submit to you that this is the best way to get back at womankind -

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LaLa, Alabama — Thu, 20 Dec 2007 20:35:14 GMT

Let's see: he takes a woman out to dinner and if he doesn't get laid for his effort, he feels himself ill-used. What a guy!

So all single women should just resign themselves to the fact that they're whores, whose price is dinner at a nice restaurant. That's what this guy has reduced women to. Because he fed you, you therefore have to spread your legs for him. That's the deal, huh? O.K. Then call an escort service, where there are no expectations upfront. Pay the money, but know what you're getting in advance.

He's a self-obsessed jackass and needs some woman's father to come upside his head with a heavy object.

I will say this for him: he is upfront about his intentions, so if a woman doesn't feel like being his whore that night, she can decline the invitation -- and feel she is doing something good for herself.

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yvonne, santa monica, CA — Thu, 27 Dec 2007 23:18:19 GMT

Teresa on Dec.10th has a deep observation of the human mind. He ultimately is an unsatisfying man. Long term dating and commitment takes effort and deep study of life. To keep sexual interest between couples requires intellect, growth, a sense of self and a sense of other. Casual sex is great however, each person need's a mature and high level of communication skills. Its very rare to find equals in this casual sex game.....

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Lucille, Minot, Wisconsin — Thu, 27 Dec 2007 23:29:46 GMT

This man is arrogant, selfish and irresponsible. It is a mystery to me that any woman would find him attractive. And he will never be able to remain faithful to anyone, despite his comment about settling down someday. He will carry this sickness over into every other relationship. What makes a person think that the habits and obsessions they have will suddenly stop once you get married? He tried to make his sickness look like a profession. But if you watched his body language you could see clearly that he knows he need mental help! He looked very nervous to me, when he spoke with the newscaster. And he knows he's wrong too. His defensive attitude towards the newsreporter showed that. Even the way he looked at the pshyciatrist shows me that if you give him an inch of support for his abnormal behaviour he will take you for a fool the entire mile! He is a decieving a very insecure man deep deep down in his heart and soul. Empty and shallow. And is to be pitied and prayed for. And he knows it too...but until he admits it, he won't be helped.

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Charlie, NYC — Thu, 27 Dec 2007 23:45:48 GMT

This guy is my hero. Way to go.

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T.W., Detroit — Fri, 28 Dec 2007 01:43:57 GMT

Paul kept it real! He seems like a nice guy...not unlike myself, except he is probably better looking than me, has an Ivy-League education (although I am finishing up my last year in law school), and lives in NY...and he's white! Unfortunately, my phenotype (being black) doesn't allow me to have access to many of the women that Paul interacts with. I won't turn this into a racial thing, but Paul fits the mold of what most woman dream about: young, white, articulate, educated, interesting, good looking, polite, suave, cool, hip, etc. I rely mostly on my personality to meet women, and I have the same philosophy as him...I LOVE women, and I enjoy spending time with women that I have chemistry with. If it works out, great! If it doesn't, oh well, but I believe him when he says he isn't trying to hurt these women's feelings. His experiences with women parallel my own. The women that don't want to hang out with me avoid my advances, while those that want more do so on their on free will. What is the matter with not wanting a long term relationship...yet? I have fallen in love only to have things not work out. I have met a woman that I was crazy about only to get dumped after she lost interest. What is the big deal? Not once did Paul mentioned the use of any unsavory or fraudulent tactics in his pursuits. When he meets the woman he wants to settle down with, he will...or maybe not. Give this guy a break...better yet, don't date interesting, intelligent, and good-looking guys who aren't ready to commit early in the dating PROCESS. There are plenty of interesting, intelligent, and good-looking guys who are ready to conquer your passions through trickery.

Women: the choice is always yours to say no, and move on!

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ralph,plantation fl — Fri, 28 Dec 2007 03:02:20 GMT

i do not think that i am a casanova or anything but i have been with over 100 women;Paul is doing something that anyone with that opportunity will take advantage of that situation.please do not hate,plantation

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JEWLER ..SAC .CAL — Fri, 28 Dec 2007 03:16:10 GMT

THIS GUY HAS ONLY SLEPT WITH A 100 GIRLS AND HE IS 32 IF HE STARTED HAVING SEX AT 18 WHICH IS REAL LATE IN LIFE THATS ONLY 7 GIRLS A YEAR I AM 31 AND AT LEAST DOUBLED THESE DIGITS.EVERY COUPLE MONTHS HE GETS LAID BIG DEAL HES JUST TRYING TO MAKE MONEY ON A BOOK .

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Iami, Tidewater, Va. — Fri, 28 Dec 2007 03:18:00 GMT

I can relate to Paul & how he views his sex life. I am 47 & have honestly been with approx. 700 people sexually. 200 by the time that I turned 18. Believe it or not, I've never had any kind of STD. Not even crabs. I get tested regularly. But I believe that if something is meant to happen that it will. If not, it won't. I admit that I'm addicted to sex & do thrive on the adrenaline rush. Like Paul, I have had quite a few monogamous relationships. One lasting 11 years. I believe in loyalty & monogamy in a relationship. But as a single man not in a relationship, I feel that I can do as I please as long as my partner is a consenting adult. As paul stated "If I'm craving a bowl of chocolate ice cream, then I'll eat it". It's a terrible analogy comparing that to a person. But I do understand completely. It takes two to tango. I've never once had sex with another person that didn't want it also. There are many countless women out there that have been with many more partners sexually then they are willing to admit. I truely believe that the majority of people sexually fantasize about others, even if they are in a monogamous relationship. The thought is the initial sin. The act is acting out the thought. Therefore, everyones a sinner. Let it rest.

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J. Meinecke, Portland, OR — Fri, 28 Dec 2007 05:07:25 GMT

First of all, I have to protest calling Janka a Casanova. Anyone who has actually read about Casanova knows that he used intellect, conversation and charm (not a lot of booze) to seduce women. If he's anything he is a Don Juan type figure, a man who uses disreputable means, to seduce (if you can call it that) woman. Date rapists have been using a similar method for quite some time , but for all accounts it sounds as though his 'conquests' (for lack of a better word) are mostly agreeable to the situation. I have not seen the clips on Don Janka, but I have read exserpts from his proposed book and I have to say that I don't agree with what he's doing, but then again, I don't have to as I wont be meeting him, and if I do, I also wont be falling into that lame ass drink trap that he has, as rule 1 from Avoiding Date Rape 101 class is you get your own drink and you babysit it to the ends of hell, and any woman dumb enough not to watch what she's drinking maybe should not be socializing in a drinking environment. Please stop calling him Casanova.

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Max, CA, Cupertino — Fri, 28 Dec 2007 05:15:22 GMT

For those critical of Paul, people are different, one of my closest and best friends is a guy like Paul. He is a good person, upfront, honest and went through plenty of chicks. Note, chicks knew what they were getting and went along with it, those that were looking for LTR just politely blew him off. For me hamster wheel of never ending chase got boring quick, different strokes for different people.

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Steve Glass, Washington DC — Fri, 28 Dec 2007 05:28:45 GMT

Right now Paul probably is really enjoying himself. But in time he'll find out how totally lonely a life like he's living ends up being. Totally empty.

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Bill Meyer, Madison, WI — Fri, 28 Dec 2007 05:34:49 GMT

Paul is ultra-cool!! Why is anyone criticizing him?

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Paul, Washington DC — Fri, 28 Dec 2007 05:48:16 GMT

There was a time when I felt that as long as a women was old enough to consent to sex with me, and I was upfront and honest with her of my intentions of not wanting a relationship, I was absolved of all guilt if her feelings were hurt later or after our interactions were finished.

While I still believe that way of thinking is rational and fair, as a human being I just don't like to see women hurt. Even though I don't think my rationale was predatorial or sociopathic, the act of hurting other people's feelings even if unintentionally simply does not interest me. Maybe if Paul realized his actions and rationale, hurt people, he would stop acting the way he acts.

Finally, lets make clear that he has no obligation to stop acting the way he acts, and is not a bad person either. Engaging in actions were people may end up hurt though as he does,... even if fair actions, may make one wonder whether he is a good person.

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firstclass — Fri, 28 Dec 2007 08:02:41 GMT

1. I'd like to see what kind of chicks this guy's pulling. 2. All men should have sex with as many women as they choose. 3. Having to get women drunk while you drink tonics on the rocks is seriously shady.

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L Sorensen, NYC — Fri, 28 Dec 2007 18:33:42 GMT

Yep, just saw the clip after paging through an MSN portal. NPD? Probably. The only reason any women are sleeping with him is because he's good looking and plays a good game. For a short period of time. Also the only reason we are discussing him now and the only reason he was on TV. Of course, I think most people miss the point in that in all this hoo-hah, I'm sure he has aspirations of getting rich, just like any other whore. I'm not impressed; I don't find him honest. Any smart woman (or man) knows that great sex and multiple orgasms comes with a partner you can trust and feel comfortable with. I don't see anything "trustworthy" or decent in anything I've read about him. To him personally: I'd say what a waste of a human being. To be intelligent, articulate and attractive and to have more than most anywhere in the world are given and waste your potential on getting screwed as your aspiration & in getting more sh*t into the tabloids. I'm sure your future is about as bright as Monica Lewinsky's after her little bleep in front of the national cameras. Notice how the discussion has died down after the 10th. You shouldn't be calling yourself a writer, either, until you learn to proofread your schlock book proposal. Better yet, stop writing schlock and try to go forward in an honest way like some of us do--but I imagine you would find that a little too difficult. I always knew that the Ivy Leagues were waaay over rated. Like President Bush, you are a such an excellent representative spokesman for them.

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Upfront — Sat, 29 Dec 2007 10:47:20 GMT

He was hurt. So he's turning the tables. I understand. I don't feel the need to have to get women drunk. I have stronger confidence. He's blessed with societal good genes and are playing women; much the same way they play us. He's had sex with so many women because he plays into the ideal fantasy of having that "perfect white baby." Real know what I'm talking about. He didn't create society. He's just living in it. Happened to be on TV!

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Margaret, Boston, MA — Tue, 01 Jan 2008 00:44:12 GMT

I agree with this Casanova guy that neither party can expect wedding bells or long term intimacy when engaging in a sexual relationship with a person you have just met. Until promises are made or strong sentiments declared, it is wise to expect nothing more than a one night stand or a casual fling. But I find it disturbing that the Today show commenters and Mr. Casanova himself cast the woman as inevitably harboring romantic hopes above and beyond the immediate sexual relationship.

This guy is a scoundrel not because he has flings with women but because he is unabashedly misogynist. Like when he notes that he doesn't care about the feelings of an ice cream scoop he wants to eat, so why he should he care about the feelings of a woman he wants to screw. Or when he talks about women always having some kind of agenda, generally one involving his wallet. Or - most tellingly -- his obvious belief that having sex with a woman is about oneupmanship rather than an activity that both parties find pleasurable and rewarding.

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jacqueline, toronto canada — Thu, 03 Jan 2008 02:08:46 GMT

I am a woman and must honestly say I have dated such a man and absolutely might again. Nice looking, articulate, opinionated and interesting people are fun to date and make great lovers, particularly if you enter the relationship without unrealistic expectations for the relationship or disregard towards the behaviour of your partner.
This man's lifestyle is working for him, and he is absolutely not responsible for the feelings of women he dates if he does not want to be. Women must'nt be treated as pawns mercilessly duped and helpless before such a man because that's simply not the case; we need to learn to manage our sexual and romantic relationships on our own.
With that said, even if this guy is not a sociopath, he may be just a little bit picky/ cocky. Honestly, though, wouldn't you be too?

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Sara B, LA, CA — Sun, 06 Jan 2008 18:07:02 GMT

I went to high school with him.
Unfortuneately, he does not know about the laws of karma - action and reaction.
Sex is God created for a married committed couple to have children, not just for immediate pleasure.
According to eastern wisdom from the yogis and sages, the more one indulges in sex in the youth, the more one will suffer in old age - it decreases the life span, creates disease, what to speak of taking away a ton of a man's energy - the more semen he loses, the more energy and health and life force he loses.
I hope he can represent my high school and harvard better by looking deeply within and soul searching and making a change.

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Ken, Santa Monica, CA — Sat, 12 Jan 2008 17:15:11 GMT

The funny thing about this is that almost all men would or do act exactly this way if they are given the opportunity. It's the human mating ritual of dating. Paul is just smart enough to be good at it. I went to grade school and high school with the guy; he's not a bad person and obviously intelligent.
Everyone plays the game, some just take the time to perfect certain aspects of it.