The way to keep sex in a marriage is to "not take it out"
Mary & Howard, married 58 years 6/24/08

For those of us (women) who are still have menstrual cycles, how do you manage this time of the month and still create a sense of intimacy? What other ways can you create this intimacy without going to far?

If these couples want to "explore" their sexuality, great. But what they REALLY want to do is sell books. How stupid, misleading and irresponsible! To suggest we "over-ride" our own sexuality and physical limits is idiotic. "Just doing it" in an automatic, robotic way degrades the experience of satisfying sex. It doesn't have to be lightening bolts every time, but these books gloss over the many complicated, unspoken issues of sexuality that men & women are unable to talk about. To "override" your hormonal peaks and valleys (when you want/don't want sex) is an abuse of your own body, not to mention your partner's. These book concepts sounds suspiciously like "male brained" marketing ideas: quantity over quality; the way to intimacy is through sex... Too bad the publishers marketing this fluff won't get their money back; these books won't sell. (And how exactly would we know if these couples really did have sex as much as they say they did? Where's the proof?) NEWSFLASH TO PUBLISHERS: Women are not that stupid and men just don't buy self-help books... Better not waste your money; instead buy a real book on couple's sexuality by a qualified therapist, like a Dr. Phil or Dr. Robin Smith.

No..

It seems that the Today show is just doing another sam-old-same old topic.  Enforcing typical stereo types.  Everyone has sex, everyone needs sex, and you must be unhappy if your not getting any.  I have a full life raising my kids, spending time with my husband, going to college, and enjoying adventures. I love my husband but, I don't find sex to be the keystone of our relationship.  I would love to see a segment on asexual people or how it is normal to not desire sex twenty-four seven.  Just a thought.

My wife and I have been married for a year and a half.  This is my 3rd and her 2nd.  I am 62 and she is 45.  She definately has a higher desire for sexual activity than I do, and that is totally different than with either of my first two wives.  We talked about this early on, and basically agreed that we would define (poor word) sex as any intimate connection we had throughout the day.  We don't hesitate to touch each other intimately at just about any time.  It's difficult to restrain ourselves at times.  We also each have a goal each day to get naked in bed with each other at the end of the day.  We cuddle, naked, in the hottest and coldest of days.  Physical contact doesn't replace intercourse, but it does make every day special, and keeps our sensitivety at a high level.  It also takes the pressure off having to "perform" sexually since it is always a part of our lives.  We would strongly recommend that couples adopt this as a part of their daily lives.  

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