Christine had mentioned that she looked into ten different test; I tried to locate these tests on the wedsite and either overlooked them or the tests are not listed. Could you please assist me in finding these different tests. Thank you and thank you for restoring hope.

I could'nt bring myself to watch the show this morning because everytime i think of what happened to me i get sick all over again. But it is good u guys did the show because it lets us know that we are not alone. Maybe my situation is a little different, but i too was pregnant at the age of 18. The father of the child was already out of the picture and i was struggling on my own, but just the thought of a wonderful, beautiful and new life growing inside of me kept me going. For me the experience was new and exciting. I spent months planning and dreaming of my baby's future. On May 26, 2004 my whole life changed. I was eight months pregnant and this particular day felt different and I didnt know why. Later on that evening I had noticed that my baby girl was not moving around like she normally does so I decided to have my aunt bring me to the hospital to make sure that everything was ok. When the nurse did a sonogram, she could not find a heartbeat. Two more doctors tried but could not find one either. From the looks on their faces i knew something was terribly wrong, and thats when they told me that they were sorry but my baby girl was gone. After being admitted to the hospital, they took me to a specialist to a final sonogram just to make sure. I prayed that this was all a mistake and that maybe this doctor would be able to find a heartbeat where the other ones couldnt, but the result was the same. I then had to spend 5 days in a hospital to wait to give birth a baby who i knew wouldnt let out that first cry or take her first breath. I will never look at pregancy the same again. To this day I do not know why my baby died or if there was something wrong with me. It hurts too much for me to find out. I know that I did everything right, no drinkning or smoking. I ate healthy. I can't understand why this happened. Everyday I am tortured, just thinking that maybe if i had made to the hospital a couple of hours earlier my baby would be okay. I am scared that now if I do become pregnant again, i will spend the whole 9months being scared and stressed out and worried. Im scared now and I'm not even pregnant. It is good to see that other people have lost children and have been able to regain control of their lives and still have hope for the future. Maybe one day I will be able to have hope for the future, and heal as well.

I'm a proud mother of two beautiful girls. I've never experienced a miscarriage myself but two of my sisters have various times and I can honestly say its a lose everyone feels. My younger sister just lost her baby at 15 weeks in her bathroom on sunday morning. She told me how everything happened, how she held her tiny little baby in her hand which was the size of a match book, how scared she was. Everything was okay, she was healthy and there was no reason for this to just happen all of a sudden. I was learning Tagalog so that I could contribute to that baby's learning of his daddy's language, along with spanish and english. I was so excited! I wanted that baby to know his/her roots and to be proud of it. I was crying unconsolably for a bit, sad for my sister that she went through all of that without her family there with her, sad that this is the second time it happens. I call her everyday since she lives about 2 hours away, just so that she knows she is not alone and that I love her. I know one day God will give her a precious baby to call her Mommy and for her to love and nurture. Motherhood is awsome! Don't give up hope.

I just want to thank you all for the great job you've done about this sensitive subject. I had 1 ectopic pregnancy and 2 miscarriages; in which one of them was just a month ago. When my husband and I found out we're pregnant, we agreed not to tell anybody till after the first trimester just so we won't all get too excited. Because last year was when we found out that I have an ectopic pregnancy after announcing to all our families and friends. This time, we want to make sure that we will pass the first 3 months. Unfortunately, on the day of my first prenatal visit, we found out I had a miscarriage. Although, we can came to the doctor's office prepared for any news (good or bad), emotionally we were not really ready. My husband doesn't like to talk about it much. So right now, I guess you could say I'm in sort of denial about it. I grieve silently when no one is around. I told my mom and she's been very supportive. I hang-on to the thought that it's not time yet. My husband and I are still hopeful that one day, we will have our own little bundle(s) of joy. Our only consolation is knowing that we have little angels watching over us. And I appreciate you all being so sensitive about this issue.

Many thanks for airing such an important story, I am 29 years old and have had 5 miscarriages in the last 5 years. I have had several blood testing and also genetic testing on both myself and my husband, I have also had a hysterosalpingogram and everything was normal. In my last pregnancy I made it to about 9 weeks and betweent one week to the next when my doctor did another ultrasound there was no heartbeat. I have been taking baby aspirin to help my blood flow better and also my prenatal vitamins daily. I don't know how much more I can do this emotionally and physically. My husband and I both want to have a baby so bad and I can't give that to him right now. I am sad, frustrated, mad and confused. Thank you for the information shared in this program I will be sure to discuss it with my doctor since I have already started another cycle of clomid.

THANK YOU, for the "I want a Baby!" series that has been running this week. I have found the stories inspirational. I have a common condition called PCOS, and struggled for 2.5 years with infertility, including a miscarriage after two years of trying to conceive, which was devastating since it had taken so long just to BECOME pregnant. My husband and I finally achieved a successful pregnancy and brought our son, Joseph, into the world on September 23, 2006. He is the main reason I've even been able to watch the Today Show - I watch it every morning while nursing him. Before that, I was always in transit or at work during the show. Thanks so much for doing this series. I believe it will provide hope and strength to the many women suffering from infertility.

All I ever wanted was a child of my own,going through three devastating miscarriages made me lose hope.I didn't think I was fertile.I thought maybe God wanted me to go down another road,but I prayed that I could just go down the road carrying a baby.However,four years later not even trying to conceive,last year my husband told me I was pregnant.Normally when a relative or a close friend is pregnant,I have a dream about fish.I've dreamt of many things,but not one about shrimp,I then discovered I was pregnant.My unborn baby was the shrimp of the sea not only in my dream,but when he was born(6lbs12o).So never give up hope,my husband didn't.

Thank you so much for your story on miscarriages. I am 27 years old and have had 2 miscarriages in 5 months. My regular OB told me that he thought it was just bad luck and if it happened again he would definetly do tests. Well, I am not willing to let it happen again so I found a specialist and just like Christine (the woman you featured today) I have a blood clotting disorder. Watching her story had me in tears because her story could very well be my own. I go through the same exact thing she did before she had her child. When I see a pregnant woman or a newborn baby I just want to cry. Life seems so unfair at times. I avoid friend's parties for fear that a pregnant woman might be there. I'm missing out on the fun things in life because I'm trying to protect myself from the hurt feelings I experience everytime I am in a mall or a resturant and a pregnant woman walks by. I look forward to the day that when I don't feel this way and I am finally holding my baby in my arms. It's so hard to want something so badly and have it taken away so fast. Thank you so much for doing this story. It has given me a new hope for the future. Meredith and anyone else that has gone through multiple miscarriages and gone on to have a baby are my inspiration.

thank you so much for doing this segment on miscarriage. i am a des exposed woman and survived 7 miscarriages. i was never able to give birth and that sadness is part of me...these days preceding mother's day are especially difficult...your show gave me comfort by validating miscarriage as a death of a family member. even though i did not birth a baby i am still a mother....

My daughter is 8 weeks pregnant and knew going into the pregancy that she has a clotting disorder.She had a hemotologist who was all too happy to give her the blood thinning injections when she flew for her honeymoon and for another trip. But as soon as she became pregnant, no one wanted to touch her. She knows the risks and is frustrated and hurt beyond belief at the cold heartedness of the doctors. One hemotologist told her her wouldn't give her the injections until she had at least one miscarriage. The psychological pain will be unbearable. She has already heard the baby's heartbeat and was so excited. The stress is unbelievable for her. Who do you turn to when multiple doctors want nothing to do with you?

I was happy to see your story this morning on miscarriage and the devastation that it leaves with families. However, I was disappointed to see that your story focused mainly on miscarriages that occur before you carry a pregnancy to term and that you didn't acknowledge the scenario that many women face of a miscarriage in a later pregnancy. While at that time it may not be due to infertility, it is devastating nonetheless and I think that it is important to let women know that it is possible to miscarry even after you have had successful pregnancies. I suffered a miscarriage during my fourth pregnancy. While I didn't have the added fear of whether or not I would ever be able to get pregnant, it was still a horrible loss and one that I was not prepared for since miscarriage is usually portrayed as a problem with first pregnancies. I think that there are many many women in your audience who would be able to relate to this type of miscarriage and who are wishing that their situations had been acknowledged during your story this morning, as well, even if it wasn't the focus. My heart goes out to all women who suffer any time of pregnancy loss. My hope for them is that they have people in their lives who allow them to grieve for their loss in order to work through their emotions and prepare for what lies ahead.

Thank you so much and I too would like to thank Meredith for correcting the doctor. No one wants to say it is a death in the family, I've heard so many unhelpful things..like it is good that it was early (from people with good intentions) that i started to get mad when i heard him say "it's like a death in the family" but she was quick to correct him and i appreciated it greatly! It's such a sad thing to go thru...

My husband and I have been trying to conceive since we got married two years ago. Last year I was diagnosed with endometriosis after excruciating pain. After two surgeries and one failed IVF attempt, my doctor put me on the pill, because I wanted to give my body some rest. Well, I got pregnant in March while on the pill, but suffered a miscarriage in April. I wish the health insurance would cover the incredible costs of fertility treatment. That would make the life of people suffering from infertility at least a little bit easier.

It's very comforting to know others share similar issues with regards to infertility and losses. You always feel your alone, but there are other women that have this unfortunate commonality. I was brought to tears by today's story. I myself have been going through fertility treatment for 2 years now with my husband. After our 2nd IVF attempt we were blessed with a positive pregnancy test that turned out to be triplets. At 20 weeks into the pregnancy we lost our babies. The hardest part was having to go through process of labor and delivery, then leave the hospital with out our babies. May 16th will be 1 year and I still cry when I think about those precious little babies I held only for a few minutes. Nobody should have to experience such pain. We have tried IVF since then but were unsuccessful. We are now looking at Embry Donation and Adoption. Viewing this morning's story gives me hope. Thank you so much for sharing!!!

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for addressing this topic this week. My husband and I have suffered 2 miscarriages and are currently 6weeks pregnant with pregancy #3. All infertility tests, so far, show nothing is scientifically wrong. Tomorrow is my 6 week sonogram and I am scared out of my mind!!! My big questions is, "how do I emotionally cope with the friends who are getting pregnant at the drop of a hat. 8 new pregnancy announcements between Feb.- Mar.-all are close friends. I try to be excited for them, but I don't want to attend any social event because I lose it emotionally- just being in the same room is too hard. So- how do I keep my friends as friends, even thought my internal thoughts are so unhappy regarding their pregnancies? They have what I want"

Tiffany S from Philadelphia, I also had problems with thin uterine lining. My understanding is that this prevents implantation rather than causing miscarriage. I had 3 failed IVF cycles due to failure to implant, and the clinic told us to give up and adopt. We ended up going to the Sher Clinic in Las Vegas who specialize in treating this problem. We did one cycle there and now have 2 year old twins. Good luck!

When I was in my early 20's, I was diagnoised with PCOS. It was not much of a surprise considering my mother and sister also have PCOS. My sister underwent IVF in order to conceive so I knew getting pregnant would be a challenge. My regular OB was not acting aggressive enough saying that my husband and I were young (we were 28 at the time) and had plenty of time. After a couple of months, I demanded that my OB refer me to the best doctors we could find. After only 1 cycle of hormone tx by injection and 1 IUI, we were pregnant. We had a healthy 9.8 pound son in November 2006. Can you please have your experts answer the following question for us. I had heard that sometimes PCOS can reverse itself after a pregnancy. At my 8 weeks follow up, my regular OB was quick to try and get me to take the birth control pill again. I informed him that I did not want to go that route yet so that I could see if I would cycle on my own (with the idea the PCOS reversed itself)and not mess with my hormone levels via the pill. My OB said that it would be unlikely that I would cycle on my own since I conceived via IUI. Nonetheless, I held my ground. I did cycle 3 times every 28 days without any medical help. I did not cycle last month. Does this now mean that more then likley the PCOS is still an issue?

This morning I turned to the show just in time to see the piece you did on Christine. As soon as she started talking about the clotting disorder I burst into tears becase I was recently diagnosed after my third miscarraige in.We have a wonderful four year old son, obviously a miracle, he was my first pregnancy. We have gone through so much pain, it was healing to hear Merideth and Dr. Grifo speak about it being a death in the family-it is a death of a child, dream, future that you've planned. Because of the area we live in, health care is limited, and I was told that no testing would be done until I lost a third pregnancy and to hear Dr. Grifo say that it just wasn't right was so healing. We are now in the process of finding out the right meds for me and try and decide if we are going to try again. I work in the medical community and see women and their families go through this as I also go through it. Losing a pregnancy is so isolating, people try to say and do the right thing to comfort you, but as Merideth said, just hold them tight and let them grieve. This subject is so taboo that I am so grateful that your show has decided to this piece. Thank you so much.

Thank you for doing a story on something most people don't want to talk about. My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 5 years now. We have lost 3 babies. My first miscarriage "Angel" was at 6 weeks. I had been through all different kinds of drugs and injections. I had gotten pregnant by IUI (with my husband's sperm). I was diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome. I tried IVF 2 times with no success and after being in lots of pain and depression, I stopped all fertility treatments and surprisingly became pregnant 1 year later, naturally. I lost Mason Douglas to preterm labor at 4 1/2 months. I tried to get pregnant again for one year with no success. So I started Clomid and Metformin again and got pregnant that month. I lost Bailey Anne at 5 1/2 months. I was finally diagnosed with a weak cervix. I lost Bailey August 9, 2006. Since then I have been continuing to take Clomid and Metformin and doing IUI. My doctor ups my dosage of Clomid each month, but I am still waiting to get pregnant. My maternal fetal specialist does not want me to do IVF or gonadatropin injections again because of my weak cervix. I couldn't handle the weight of multiples, even with a cerclage. I am currently on 250 mg of Clomid and 2000mg of Metformin daily. I will find out in 2 weeks if this round of IUI worked or not. My husband and I have talked about adoption but just haven't reached the point of quitting trying for a biological child, yet. I never dreamed I would have to go through what I have in the last 5 yrs. It has truly been a nightmare. I know my children are with God and that I will be a parent here on earth when it is in God's will, but it has still been very difficult to get through everything. I feel for every woman who has lost a baby. There is nothing more devastating!

Thank you so much for this story. When you have gone through something so painful it helps to know you are not alone. I am 28 years old and have had 2 miscarriages, the first at 8 wks, and the 2nd at 21 wks. They called it a 2nd trimester miscarriage, but I had a baby. He was a little boy that lived for an hour after his birth. I bled through most of the pregnancy, but my doctor was unable to tell me why, just that it sometimes happens. He told me to try again, two miscarriages did not mean there is a problem. After hearing all these stories, I want to make sure first. Thank you again.

I didn't get to watch the news on miscarriages this morning but I have been reading alot of the comments. I myself have never had a miscarriage, I am on my 6th child not by choice, I did have my tubes tied after my 5th and became pregnant 2 months later (after they were tied). I feel bad for the women who have had miscarriages, I had a brother whose girlfriend carried the baby until she was 8 months. She went in for a routine dr. appointment and couldn't hear her heartbeat. She came home went the next day and was induced and had my niece Summer...they took pics and had to have a funeral. My brother is no longer w/her and we don't live in the same town but I frequently think about my little niece and wonder what she would look like. She would have been 14 this July. So even though I haven't been through what alot of the women have my heart does go out to all of you. I can only somewhat feel what you are going through.

I would like to add my thanks as well. Especially for covering a number of topics. I, too, have dealt with both infertility and miscarriage. It took us three years and the help of a doctor to get pregnant again after our first miscarriage and having the second was the most difficult thing I've ever been through. Truly it was "a death in the family" for me and having friends telling me that I was fortunate to only have been 8 weeks along was like rubbing salt in the wound. Your segment has been wonderful with bringing this topic to light. A special thanks to Meredith Vieira for mentioning that the best thing other people can do is not say anything and just hug you. (Virtual hugs going out to all those women who've recently suffered such a loss.) Adding to this, after years of dreaming of a wonderful birth, holding my daughter fresh from my womb and being able to breastfeed her, I received another slap in the face when I ended up with an emergency c-section and to have no milk come in. Now doctors are telling me it's better to just have c-sections. No way! All of the research says that VBACs are a viable option and just as safe as repeat cesareans for most women. Would you please cover breastfeeding issues and VBACs in the future? Your show is just wonderful and the perfect place to promote awareness of these issues.

My sister became pregnant and suffered a miscarriage shortly after. In the process of this all she lost a fallopian tube. She is a tiny woman that weights about 88 lbs and is 4ft 11”and has been trying desperately to get pregnant again. No one can tell her why she has miscarried and now they are starting from square one again with the dye injecting and taking prenatal vitamins. Her husband was devastated about the miscarriage and desperately wants her to get pregnant. Will they be able to conceive again with just one fallopian tube?

I, too, lost a child to miscarriage. It was the most horrific experience of my life to the point where even 6 months after the loss, I couldn't go to church during Christmas time to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. How could I celebrate His birth when my baby would never be born? I found out through a friend about PCOS and Insulin Resistance. When I talked to my doctor about it, he humored me about it and did the testing. Turns out that's what I have. My miscarriage was in July, 2002. With medication to control the insulin resistance, clomid, FSH shots, artificial insemination, and progesterone inserts, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl in November, 2004 after being in the care of an excellent specialist in Indianapolis. I also had to lose 68 pounds. If you're overweight and find that you have PCOS, have your fasting insulin levels tested. I prefer to think that the child I lost was to let me know that I had a pre-diabetic condition. We'll be trying again soon for another child, but we know that another miscarriage could be a possibility.

I too suffered a miscarriage when I was 10 weeks pregnant. It was one of the most heartbreaking events I have ever experienced. I wondered what I had done wrong in my life to have to go through this. My husband and I were absolutely devastated by our loss and I eventually suffered from depression for a few months after our loss. We were told it was very common to have this happen and that we should try again. That wasn't something I wanted to hear at the time. I had people say they were sorry for us and even one person who told me "that you just have to get over it". I was furious. No one should ever try to put any kind of timetable on grief and loss. I realized that no one was going to tell me to "get over it" and that I would make peace with it when I was ready to. It became a wound that is forever in my heart. Most days a bandaid stays on that wound and keeps it covered but there are days that this particular wound breaks open and has to be carefully tended to again. It becomes a loss that is forever with you. You never get over it, you just learn to live with that constant loss of missing your child. We did eventually go on to have a beautiful daughter who is now 9 years old and the love of our lives. But the baby lost is forever in our hearts!

THANK YOU Meredith! I can't begin to put into words just how perfect the timing was on this mornings segmant. Like you were reading my mind! My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for over a year while suffering from UTERINE FIBROIDS. Finally....we achieved what seemed to be the greatest gift! 10 1/2 weeks into the pregnancy, with no bleeding, I "just didn't feel right". My husband, even though deep in his heart feeling as if I was just being "pshycho pregnant woman" agreed that if I felt something was wrong than lets go to the emergency room. I was examined, and no miscarriage....no bleeding. Then came the ultrasound.....NO heartbeat. I couldn't belive it...how could this possibly be happening to me? My largest of my 5 Fibroids had tripled in size. Now the size of a large grapefruit, this Fibroid had pushed on my Uterus and stopped the baby's heart from beating. How could my own body take this precious life??? Still the posibility remained that there was chromosonal abnormality. Either way, so painful but if the baby wasn't right, I did believe this was God's way. After the D&C the pathology report came back....the baby was fine. Devistated yet again. Hearing over and over from friends and family how "getting pregnant in the first place is such a good sign". That's like hearing "just relax" when you're taking your temperature, checking for ovulation and wondering why your husband is not home right at this exact moment! I never thought in a million years that something I've been wanting since I can remember as a little girl would be so very hard to achieve. I would be extremely gratful if the topic of Fibroids could be addressed on an upcoming segmant. My prayers go out to every woman who is experiencing this kind of pain....I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy!!

Thank oyu for this topic on the Today Show. I have suffered multiple miscarriages. (seven) and I have been married for 4 years. People mean well, but sometimes just don't get it. With the information given this morning when I do see my doctor in 2 weeks I will be asking for other test. All pregnancies have ended by 11.5 weeks. I am so scared to get my hopes up and just want a baby more than anything. Adoption is an option for us as well but do people really understand the cost of that. Thanks again for the topic of Miscarriages this morning.

I wanted to add that I too have miscarried. I misscarried my first child, then had a healthy baby girl (who is now 12 years old), then miscarried 2 more times (last one with twins). I had finally given up of having anymore children and was schedualed to have my tubes tied. My OG/GYN convinced me that there was a 30 waiting period for the procedure in Texas from the time you sign your concent forms. So I waited. I had my pre surgery pregnancy test done and found out that I was pregnant again. Thank God I waited as my doctor "advised" because I now have a healthy 7 year old son.

After reading all the comments above it is helpful to learn that I am not alone on the journey of wanting a baby. I am currently going through my fourth miscarriage and the pain and anger are unbearable. We have had several blood tests and all are normal. I had a hysteroscopy to remove polyps from my uterus so we were hopeful this pregnancy was going to last and we were finally going to start a family. All was going well and we heard a heartbeat at 2 ultrasounds and then it was gone. We are going to do tests on the fetus and hope to shed some light and get some answers. Not sure the next step but this is all the most difficult and painful experience my husband and I have ever gone through. No one can really relate until you have experienced yourself.

I,too have suffered the emptiness of losing a baby and the loss is still with me 8yrs later. Though I have bookend daughters,most beautiful and precious to me,I still feel the ache for the one I never got to hold. The "Miracle" that escaped my grasp. Its this loss that makes me hate the term "miscarriage".`I feel the true miscarriage of the situation is the grief that the parents {and siblings] suffer that is so often overlooked by society,co workers and even the best of friends, that we are never given permission to cry out loud for the loss of our most precious gift...our children. It's not "Ok",there maybe other babies,but that "one" will never be replaced,"God's Way" is not always a comforting way,for a grieving parent. Just love your friend,coworker,sister,brother[yes,men suffer just as much] hug them and let them cry. Thank you for bringing this sad everyday reality to the doorstep of the world. Our Children Matter

I can't thank you enough for covering such a delicate subject. It means so much for every woman out there who have suffered through such a horrible loss. It is definitely a death in the family and unfortunately no one can understand that unless they have experienced it for themselves. I applaud Meredith for making sure she got the point across that you should not tell someone who has suffered through a miscarriage things like "it was meant to be" or "you'll get pregnant again" etc. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for 6 years we have had one ectopic resulting in the loss of a fallopian tube, 6 miscarriages and the diagnosis of 'unexplained infertility'. We just lost the 7th about 2 months ago at 7 weeks after our first cycle with IVF and it is so devastating. We are moving forward with another cycle of IVF and are both scared to death of what might be another miscarriage. We have been through every test and I have had so many surgeries all with just one tiny goal in mind, a baby! Thank you again for telling this story about pregnancy loss and infertility.

i have suffered two miscarriages and although a lot of people offer support out of the kindness of their heart, no one truly know the pain that it endures whether it was a still birth, miscarriage, or the baby died after being born; it was still a life that you loved and lost and will forever cherish.

My husband and I lost our first son on Oct 12, 2007. I was 29 weeks pregnant and noticed that he hadn't moved in 24 hours. We made the hour long trip to the dr and after an ultrasound they said he had no heartbeat. 2 days later I went to labor and delivery to be induced. Facing family and friends was incredibly difficult and hearing the same platitudes over and over were difficult. The same, oh you can try again, or it was just meant to be, made me more angry. Those that would just sit and say nothing or just listen to me or just be a shoulder to cry on were what helped me move to the healing process. We are currently expecting another son on August 26, I am 24 weeks along and he is moving and kicking like a soccer player. Although every little thing seems to worry us and we are overly cautious, but we do want to bring home our baby boy and have many years of memories. Thanks for sharing something that happens all the time, but noone seems to talk about it until it happens to you or to someone close to you, then all of a sudden everyone seems to say, I went through the same thing.

I didn't get to see the program about the miscarriages, but from the feedback I have read it sounded great. I understand the stigma that goes along with miscarriage. I miscarried our second child. The pregnancy was normal, nothing out of the ordinary. I had already been experiencing her move and had heard her heartbeat several times. When I went for my visit at 18 weeks, we couldn't hear a heartbeat anymore. The nurse said she was probably behind my c-section scar and that was preventing us hearing it, I knew something was wrong. 2 weeks later I began to spot and we went in. After a physical exam, they said I was not having a miscarriage that everything was fine. So they sent me to ultrasound to verify. When they did the ultrasound I saw her and noticed there was no heartbeat. The tech quickly turned the screen away so I couldn't see it and sent me back to the doctor who informed me my baby had died. She was 18 weeks, I had a D&C the next day. About a week later, I was still having times of crying over the loss and had my father tell me "You need to get over it, it isn't like you already had a child and then had her die. It isn't the same thing." My little sister died when she was 6 months old, so my parents do know how it feels to have a child die. But they didn't understand that a miscarriage has the same grief that you would experience with giving birth and then having the child die. I'll never forget how much that hurt, being told it isn't the same thing Not only that, but my best friend found out she was pregnant the day before I miscarried. I had to watch her go through her pregnancy and have her son and being reminded how our little girl had died. We did have another child, a girl, 2 years later.

after dating someone for two years, off and on... I found myself pregnant. I was scared to death and I thought for sure my boyfriend would run for the door, but to my amazement, he was supportive beyond my wildest dreams! I cried from the moment I found out I was pregnant due to the hormones(out of control) My boyfriend was my rockand got me through this, telling me we would be okay. Once I knew everthing would work out and I would be okay... we both were overjoyed about becoming a mommy and dadday. I was alreading dreaming of what the baby would look like, who'a eye lashes it would have. I couldn't wait to hold my baby! I was ready to buy baby clothes,etc. I was so happy, finally, I am going to be a MOM. Then two weeks later I suffered a misscarriage.... my world fell apart. The bond I had with my baby was so special, someone only a mother could explain. 4/12 was the worst day in my life and I have cried everyday missing the baby I will never hold. I'm not sure we'll try again, since this was unplanned and we're not married, and our relations has had it's up's and down's. I know for sure that I do want to be a mommy again someday soon. I have never realized that a miscarriage is so personal and the pain is real. Talking about losing a child to misscarriage is something real and it shouldn't be shameful! I pray evernight to god, that he takes care of my baby, until we meet again! Stay Strong!

I was very happy to see a story on this subject. I have a 5yr old son and have had two miscarriages. It was devistating to go through it. I still have troubles of dealing with it. I am not sure how to cope i wanna try again but I am so scared of being told the same thing im sorry but you are miscarring again. But it is nice that so many woman are strong enough and are going through the same thing. it is not a good thing but it is nice that im not alone in this. I just pray that for all woman out there that are going through the same thing stay together strong through this.

I was 4/2 months along when I found out my baby died. The doctors have no answers even though they ran a panel on my blood and placenta. I had the QuadMarker test done 2 weeks before my son's death--it was negative. The ultrasound at 16 week showed no problems. Odds are that the problem lies with me.(I just turned 36.) My question is...what are the 10 blood tests that the woman profiled asked for? It may give me a place to start in this proactive approach.

After suffering multiple miscarriages, and failed fertility treatments, I gave up on getting pregnant. My husband and I just adopted a beautiful newborn baby boy, and guess what...I am 4 months pregnant(without fertility treatment, which is a total shock!). It is strange how things work out. So to all the ladies that have suffered as I have, dont give up hope...miracles do happen!

This story hit close to home - I experienced a stillbirth in March because of a blood disorder. They found it in my 23rd week of pregnancy but it was too late to save our baby girl. Its so difficult and not something anyone I ever knew talked about or experienced. Thank you for covering this and I hope that you also look into stillbirth and the effect it has on couples and families.

I am 25 and had a very early miscarriage November of last year. We have not been trying to get pregnant, but are not protecting ourselves either just letting God decide when we should be parents. But after the miscarriage I got a little worried. Am going to have problems considering we have not been using protection for 5 years now and have gotten pregnant and miscarried once? Am I not in the perfect age to get pregnant with the wink of an eye?

Thank you so much for this piece. It has brought me some hope. I recently lost my baby at 18.5 weeks. We went to the docotr to find out thegender and instead found out our baby was gone. It has been 1 month and 2 days since that day and it's the hardest thing that I have ever dealt with. We have 3 other kids and so people tell me "well you should just be grateful for what you have." That makes nothing easier. This baby we lost was very much loved and ver wanted. It wouldn't have mattered if we had 3 kids or 12 kids, she would still be sorely missed. This is just a terrible tragedy that no one should ever have to suffer. We are going to try again and hope that we can yet have another healthy baby.

It is so nice to have this brought out in the open. I have gone through 2 miscarriages and now all the tests to see why. Being called a "habitual aborter" is not an easy thing to hear...especially because it means the dr has no idea why I keep losing my babies. Dealing with the loss of two babies is hard enough, but having well-intentioned people blather on about "meant to be" & "try again" does not help. Out of all my family and friends, I had one person (ONE!) actually say they were sorry for the loss of my BABY. Sorry for your loss is great (honestly), but having someone else actually say "baby" is just such a comfort (in a very weird sort of way). My best friend was due 2 weeks after I was and gave birth to a healthy, beautiful little girl. I love my friend dearly, but she never understood why I had such a difficult time sharing her joy. Her every milestone only reminded me what I should have experienced. She would get upset when I didn't want to go to her baby shower, or come out and see the baby. I am thrilled for her and definitely would NOT want her to have gone through what I have, but I guess I needed a bit more understanding that she could give at the time. Maybe stories like this will help those lucky ones who have no expierence understand a little bit better.

Thanks so much for providing such an informative show on Today regarding miscarriage. Sometimes it is such a private pain to endure - especially when it is early on in a pregnancy and the pregnancy had not yet been shared with others. I, too, suffered two miscarriages in my mid-30's. There was no real explanations why they happened. And having to endure such insensitivity from others - from physicians to even my spouse, was almost unbearable. One physician blamed it on my "older eggs". My husband at the time provided an insensitive comment stating that "it isn't my fault." But luckily, my third pregnancy resulted in a healthy and beautiful babygirl. So thank you for helping to educate others, and thank you Meredith for sharing your personal experience.

Thank you for addressing this issue. Like everyone else who has posted, my husband and I have been dealing with infertility issues for 6 and a half years. We were lucky to be blessed with a beautiful daughter who just turned 7 years old a few months ago. We did not have any problems conceiving her and I did not have any complications with the pregnancy. Two years after she was born, we got pregnant again only to miscarry. We were completely devastated. We went through the clomed, the infertility treatments, the tests, etc. only to be told that we are perfectly healthy and there is no reason we shouldn't be having kids. About 2 and a half years after my first miscarriage we discovered (almost too late) that I was pregnant again and only after having severe pain and a very good OB, discovered that it was an ectopic pregnancy. So in the space of 24 hours we went from realizing I was pregnant to learning that there was no possible way for the pregnancy to last. We got me to the E.R. and into surgery in the nick of time as my tube was ready to burst. Fast forward to March of this year. Once again we learned that after 6 years of trying and failing that we were finally expecting again. I felt really good for about a month then I started to have the spotting and the cramping and eventually miscarried again. The things that have been the hardest for me to deal with is that we have no explanation as to why we have a hard time getting pregnant and carrying a baby. All of the tests that we've had done just come back with the result of that we're perfectly healthy. My husband is 31 and I am 30 so our age shouldn't be a factor. The other thing that has been really hard is since I've had my daughter I've had to sit back and watch my brothers and their wives have four kids between the two families and I've had to be completely elated and ecstatic for them. Don't get me wrong, I am happy for them, but it also is a reminder of what is not happening for us. How do I deal with the emotional side of all of this? How much further do I pursue trying to have more kids? Do I just throw in the towel and enjoy the one miracle that I have? I need to be able to move past this obstacle but I don't feel that I can completely give up. Emotionally though I feel as if I am on a never ending roller coaster. How do I deal with all of this? One last thing that I think should be brought up with this series is that miscarriages are just as hard on the fathers-to-be as they are on the mothers-to-be. True that the fathers don't have to suffer through all of the physical changes that the women do, but they suffer just as much emotionally. They also do a phenomenal job of trying to support their wives as we deal with everything.

Thank you for airing this series on infertility. My husband and I have been suffering through this long process for over two years now. We have been through multiple failed IVF cycles, two miscarriages and are now moving on to other options. Each stage of the process brings its own unique frustrations. Thank you so much for giving a voice to all of us and our sturggles through this each and everyday. It is an especially difficult time with Mother's Day coming up.

My husband and I tried every avenue available thru the military health care system in the 1980's and never did get pregnant during the 17 years we tried. Adoption became an option with a tax client's daughter who was in foster care. That was an emotional roller coaster ride as well. I still have problems seeing pregnant women, especially those who smoke and/or do drugs, and I don't do baby showers. I'm glad that technology has come a long ways and that it sounds like the military has kept up with the advances. Back in the 80's we were told that my endometriosis would be cured if I got pregnant but my husband was shooting blanks. I made the mistake of trusting the doctors and not being my own best advocate.

I want to thank you for the special about miscarriages this morning. It was funny I just happened to be flipping channels and ran across "I want a baby" on the screen so I quick switched back. I am actually home after delivering my second "miscarriage/stillbirth" I was at 20 weeks and 2 days gestation when I had my little girl on April 1st of 2007. But in October of 2006 I had also delivered a little boy at 19 weeks gestation. It is been such a hard year and so devestating. Because I have followed everything by textbook and have done all the right things. My problem is that my water breaks in the first case it was a slow leak and I didn't even know. Even when I had mentioned it to my doctor I was told it was probably just my bladder and that I was just leaking urine. She never checked me for fluid. So when we got pregnant again I switched to a more high risk doctor office and everything was going great I was at 17 weeks and my water broke at work. My baby was still alive and doing as good as it could under the circumstances when I went in at 20 weeks for another ultrasound to check on her. Two days later she had passed away and I was induced. My doctors have been wonderful and they are going to try all the tests they can to find out what is going on. But for right now they have no idea what it is and I am so worried that they won't be able to find a reason and that I might have to go through losing another 2nd trimester baby again. But I was really glad when they were talking about proper things to say to someone who is going through a loss was just to give them a tight hug and tell them you love them. Because it is so hard for people to tell you that "everything happens for a reason" or "it was God's will" when they don't understand our hurt can't be brushed off so easily. It is a death in the family and know my husband and I both have two angels that we think about every single day.

I suffered many miscarriages many years ago, but because of stubbornness, finally was able to have children. Since it was so many years ago, the doctors did not know as much as they do now, but said I might have a hormone imbalance.

On February 16, 2006, we lost our daughter - Hope - because of an ectopic pregnancy. And while we will never know 100% that it was a girl, in our hearts she always will be. I had been told 18 years earlier I would never conceive, she was a miracle my husband and I were not expecting. We named her "Hope" because that was all we were going to have left. Now my doctors tell me I will never have another child, but I will always have hope. I missed the story this morning, but found out about it on line. Thank you for bringing this topic out. Too many of us mourn in silence. Also, I would like to remind everyone that October 15th is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day -- please light a candle that day for all of us who have lost the child that was so very wanted.

I must first say I did not see the episode on tv but I feel for all the letters sent. I also experienced one miscarriage, I thank god for my two beautiful healthy children but I was devasted by the miscarriage and no one understood why.

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