My husband and I have been in fertility treatment for over a year now, primarily due to poor sperm morphology. Since many other treatments have failed, we are now getting ready to start the IVF process in a few weeks. I've been told I have a thin uterine lining (measuring 5-6 instead of 8-12). Can one of your experts tell me if this will increase the rate of miscarriage (and/or decrease the rate of IVF success) and if there's anything that can be done to thicken my lining? Sincerely, Tiffany Adams

Thank you so much for running such an important story today. I am a proud mother of a 1 year old son, but like you and Christine, my journey to motherhood wasn't an easy one. I have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, so getting pregnant was quite a battle. After trying to get pregnant for 1.5 years we finally found the right cocktail of medicines to achieve ovulation only to miscarry my first 3 pregnancies. Thanks to fantastic doctors, I was diagnosed both with a blood clotting and autoimmune disorder and was finally able to carry a pregnancy to term. Miscarriages (and infertility) are topics that are too often ignored. Thanks for bringing this very real and heartbreaking issue to the public!

My name is Kathy Pinchook and I am an obsetrical nurse at Albany Medical Center in Albany, NY. In 2003, My good friend and fellow OB nurse lost her full term baby girl three days before her due date. In her daughters memory, Lesley and her friend Jean started a not for profit organization designed to help educate caregivers and family on helping grieving families cope with such terrible losses. They've put together a box filled with momentos to help make physical memories for these special families. Their web site is www.cailinsmemories.org. Lesley and Jean have alot to offer if you'd like to contact them. Their address, email address and phone number are on the web site. Thank you very much.

Christine's story was very inspiring! Kudos to her for taking matters into her own hands and not just leaving it up to her doctor. Doing her own research really made a difference. Thanks for sharing her story, and yours.

Ms. Fine, I would personally like to thank you for the Today show's piece on miscarriage - which aired this morning. As someone who has also suffered through recurrent miscarriages, I was heartened to see the story you told did not shy away from the very emotional part of this "medical" condition. More importantly I would like to thank Meredith Viera for correcting Dr. Jamie Grifo when he referred to miscarriage as "like a death in the family". Ms. Viera did a great service to those couples who have endured the often misunderstood emotional aspect of miscarriage by stating "it is a death in the family". Thank you very much.

Hi Tammy, I was so relieved to see your piece on miscarriages. I recently suffered a miscarriage, and it is still unreal for me to say that out loud. All of my life, I fantasized about finding my soulmate, getting married, and having babies. I never felt more excitement than after 8 months of trying, the test finally said positive. I ran to my husband, test in hand, and we literally jumped up and down together. I was never prepared for what would happen 5 weeks later. To add to my elation was the fact that my 2 sisters were also pregnant. How amazing for us and for our parents...3 new grandchildren in a matter of 3 months. It was too good to be true, a reality my husband and I came to grips with early on April 3, 2007. Besides the emotional pain of losing your baby, your hope, and your happiness came the excruciating physical pain. I could write, talk, and cry for hours about the pain, confusion and uncertainty for our future. I feel that the excitement has been taken out of starting a family, and it has become so scientific fo us now. My physical health took a huge change as my abdomen got smaller and my sadness and loneliness grew. I bled for a month and I developed migraines, something I never experienced before. My husband and I were also crushed when told we had to wait 3 more months to start trying. But none of the answers are certain, and none guarantee we won't have to endure this pain again. And to top it all off, there is a stigma it seems about talking on this topic...almost as if its shameful or embarrassing and no one wants to say it out loud. Yet, all the doctors say is that it is so common. Well then why do people look at me with pity but say nothing? Why is there only ONE book in an entire bookstore on suffering a miscarriage? Why was I left in the ER waiting room for 5 hours only to lose my baby in the waiting room bathroom? My husband and I will always know that we lost our first one, that we lost a child, and that will forever change us. I refuse to forget and move on, and it doesn't make me feel better if it was "God's will". So, thank you. Thank you for saying it out loud, and for recognizing that there are so many of us that belong to this secret club that NO one deserves to belong to...a club that should NOT be a secret. In the meantime, I will look at my sisters and be thankful that it was me and not them because I couldn't imagine watching them go through what I did. I watch the Today show every single morning, and as I grieved and as I continue to grieve I thought everyday about contacting your show and asking you to consider this topic. I didn't even have to ask, but if you ever consider another story, I would be more than willing to share my painful story in hopes that it would help others or sadly, even prepare them.

I think it is a great idea to speak about something so sensitive. I too have had 7 miscarriages and 1 ectopic pregnancy, and I would of loved to hear about others going through the same thing to give me comfort during my sad times. I've given birth to three beautiful girls and I couldn't be happier!!!

I'm home from work today, because I had my 5th miscarriage yesterday. I rarely bleed or cramp, so I usually find out when I go in for an ultrasound and there's no heartbeat. Needless to say, I've grown to dread ultrasounds!! I've been seeing a reproductive endocrinologist since the third one, and I've undergone extensive testing. So far, my husband and I have passed every test - excellent sperm, no scarring, no infection, good egg quality, no genetic disorders, no luteal phase defect, and the list goes on and on. All of my D&C tissue have been tested and the results show chromosomal abnormalities. So something is wrong - right? We are now down to our final two options - donor egg or adoption. Both cost $20,000 plus, and neither of the babies will be mine (biologically), though the donor-egg baby will be my husband's, since his sperm will be used to fertilize the egg. Adoption can take years, and I'd like to have a baby before I look more like his/her grandmother than birth mother. So I guess we'll be looking through donor-egg toddler pictures next month, so we can find one who might resemble my husband and I.

I have two daughters who were diagnosed in the past year with blood clotting disorders after the oldest suffered two miscarriages. She has since been unable to get pregnant. She and her husband, however, adopted the most precious baby girl in Dec. Our daughter was able to be in the delivery room and our lives have been so blessed. Our younger daughter was pregnant in Dec., giving herself the daily blood thinner shot, doing everything right and still had a miscarrige at about 6 weeks. During that miscarriage, she held a fully intact egg sack with the enclosed embryo in her hand just 24 hours after hearing the heartbeat and being told all was fine. Today she is almost 18 weeks pregnant, giving herself daily blood thinner shots, and doing well. We are cautiously optimistic. Your stories this week have touched home for my family painfully sweet. Painful because I know the heartache that a miscarriage brings to an entire family. Sweet because I know there is so much hope in a number of forms. Once my daughters were diagnosed with the MTHFR gene mutation (which their doctor told them had a potentially 95% miscarriage rate without treatment), I too was tested because of the blood clotting factor and predisposition to stroke and other disease (I have type 2 diabetes). I tested positive. And yet, I had no pregnancy problems. There is so much yet to learn about medical science, but I wish more women were fortunate enough to have doctors who are knowledgable about the gene mutations that cause miscarriages. Our insurance company would not even cover the cost of the testing because they consider it investigational and experimental. Medicine still has a long way to go. Thank you for beginning to open the doors on that information for others.

If Possible, can you PLEASE address SIDS...Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. I know a young couple who lost their last two children from SIDS. One at 3 months 3 days and the other at 3 months 2 days 12 years apart. What can they do?

I did not get to see the show but caught a few lines from closed captioning as I passed the TV at work. Will this topic be covered all week? I'll record the rest if it is. I am currently on a year and a half waiting list to get in vitro through a military hospital. The wait and the whole experience in general is killing me (but if we don't wait we have to pay the entire thing out of pocket). Although I have never experienced a miscarriage, I can definitely symathize with women who have and it amazes me how many women I know who have suffered through at least one miscarriage. Thank you.

I loved your piece on miscarriages! I had one about 14 years ago and was devastated. I have never heard any doctor or anyone else call it a death in the family and it truly was for me! Everyone else seemed to think it wasn't all that big a deal. One woman sent me a silk flower arrangement that I still have today. It meant so much that someone truly acknowledged this loss! Many said it wasn't the same as losing a child that had been born and that hurt so much! I felt I never got the chance to meet this person and they did with theirs. It was as if the rest of the world wouldn't accept that this embryo ever existed and I had never been pregnant. It was really hard as this baby had been created out of my love for my husband and it was as if this love was obliterated from the face of the earth. We were fortunate to go on to have two more children which has helped to ease this loss some. But I have tried to make it a point to acknowledge a miscarriage when I hear of one. Soon after I lost ours several friends also had miscarriages (some had several) and I found comfort in talking with them and trying to support them. You put forth all the questions I had like how long before I can try again, and what tests can be done to make sure it doesn't happen again etc. The doctor you had is one of a kind! His true compassion will help many who suffer with this. I like his proactive position and wish that more doctors would take that approach. If we looked at it as a true death than maybe we would be able to do more to stop it before it happens or at least prevent it from happening again as was the case with the woman portrayed. To lessen this tremendous loss would save an awful lot of hurt! Thanks!

As a woman who has suffered from infertility it was refreshing to see a piece, like this morning's, presented with compassion and understanding. Meredith did a wonderful job with this topic, probably because she understands it, having suffered recurrent miscarriages herself. The producer did a wonderful job of capturing the depth and breadth of the pain within a short segment. Good job. The emotional component of infertility, no matter the source, is all too often overlooked by the fertile world. Those of us who are unsuccessful in having a pregnancy are the silent sufferers. We face the death of our futures, our plans, our dreams, our families, our dreamed about children....that will never be. And we face this death in private....because there is no outward loss that others can see and support. No sympathy cards are sent. No flowers. And yet we carry on. Again, thanks for the sensitive and accurate information being shared in your infertility segments. And thanks for the medically significant information your experts are sharing, as well as their compassion and understanding. Keep up the good work.

Thank you for this story! I just suffered through my second misscarrage, which almost killed me. It is in fact a very upsetting thing and especially as you get older and are faced with less opportunity to have a child. The information was extremely useful. Thank you again, much of the information I heard in your piece really made me more of an informed individual and actually assisted in my emotional and mental state of mind.

Thank you so much for this story! After suffering 2 miscarrages and being put on clomid for 6 mths and nothing i was running out of hope. I know this might not be my problem but its hope. My Dr. never did these test, the first said oh just go home and lay on your left side. The seconed well somthing is up lets do some checking around. My family did the "It wasn't ment to be thing." which hurt more then helped. And just this past week my sister-in-law had a baby......needless to say i haven't called or visited i just hope she watched your show this a.m. to understand how painful her joy is to me. I actully have a dr. appt scheduled this afternoon-which i was gonna cancel seeings how nothings helped and i have made a appt. with a specialist. But with this information i will be walking in and demanding these test. Its awful sitting in a waiting room with only magazines on baby's and pregnancy and surrounded by pregnant women. But today i will be going in aware there are test they haven't done that could help, so for the first time in 2 years i will be sitting there w/a smile on my face.

HI, I am a mother of two beautiful children and have been feeling in complete. We decided to try again and we were sucessful untill I began havign pains. I went in and my world shattered. The baby was in my tube. I had to have emergency surgery. There is not alot out on that specific topic, in fact I have not met anyone else who had an ectopic pregnancy. It is a horrible feeling knowing you had to terminate what you wanted and long for. We have now been unseccessful in conceiving again. There are no words to describe what it is like. My favorite part of the piece was Meredith saying just hold them. That makes me cry thinking of it. That is what I needed most, not the empty well intentioned words. Just a hug! Sincerely, Mandi

Thank you so much for doing a segment on this topic. Last week I suffered my first miscarriage. Our baby was measured at 12 weeks 4 days. We went to our regular OB appointment resulting in an ultrasound to determine viability. To our shock ---our baby measured correctly, but did not have a heartbeat. This was to be our fourth child. We already have a set of twins (natural conception) and a singleton. We have had many people say how fortunate we are to have three children already---and I am! --however it doesn't make this loss any easier to deal with. This was a planned pregnancy in which our whole family was excited, especially our 10 year old twins that were filled with anticipation and joy. We felt that telling them about the loss (since at 9 weeks we had an ultrasound with a strong heartbeat???) was the harder than actually coping with the loss ourselves. We would also like to share that we felt it helpful and peaceful to seek out our Pastor for prayer and Godly advice. We had just our family meet at church to pray and answer any questions that the children might have had. It doesn't make the loss go away, but at least we were able to model to our children that money and fame doesn't solve problems, but leaning on your faith and the faith of good friends does seem to take some of the pain go away. Lastly, I would add that there will be people in your family or social circle that will avoid talking to you about the loss of your child. This for some, might make it easier to cope. For us, we tend to have to work things out verbally, especially emotions. If you know someone who is in this situation, please acknowledge their loss, a card can be so meaningful when you really don't know what to say.

Thank you for sharing Christine's story. Eight and a half years ago, I became pregnant and had an early miscarriage. I then became pregnant right away and was completely excited to see that everything was okay and we anxiously awaited the birth of our second daughter. (Our oldest daughter was just over 1 year old.) Although throughout the pregnancy I was concerned that I didn't seem to be showing as much, the doctor assured me that the baby's size was fine. She reminded me that people carry their babies differently. At 35 weeks, I awoke early with contractions and spotting. When I arrived at the hostpital they decided to listen for the heartbeat. After the nurse tried a few times to find the heartbeat, I knew something was wrong. She then called for another nurse to listen, but she could not find it. Then they called for an ultrasound and started asking me when was the last time I felt the baby move. With the ultrasound they confirmed that there was no heartbeat and our little girl had died. My husband was walking my oldest daughter around in her stroller at the hospital and I had to have the nurse find him. It was the hardest thing in the world to tell my husband that our baby had died. After I delivered her a few hours later, we were able to hold her and see how perfect she was. A few months later, I was diagnosed with a blood clotting disease and was able to do the blood thinning injections twice a day. A little over a year later, I gave birth to a beautiful, healthy baby girl. I strongly encourage women who have had a miscarriage to ask their doctor to run some test to see what may have caused the miscarriage. I hope that no one would have to go through delivering a stillborn child, like us. Thank you again for sharing Christine's story.

I'm glad to see that miscarriage is being talked about more on television. Too often, we suffer the loss in silence. I have two beautiful children, each who came after a loss (one being missed in the early 2nd trimester) - my first after 3 years of infertility. I have PCOS (polycystic ovary syndrome) which can raise risk of miscarriage to 50% or higher. So for me, it was about being on medications to control the hormonal imbalances. These losses were some of the most isolating, lonely times in my life when I truly could've used someone. Fortunately, I found a support group online who helped me through the process of the loss, trying again, pregnancy after loss, and watching our children grow together. Most of us have experienced multiple or recurrent miscarriages, and share information in hopes of helping another woman. We are a close group of women who have become each other's rocks and support. Thank you so much for doing a story like this. Women should know they are not alone - so many people you know have experienced miscarriages, and you don't even know it. And there is hope - and help out there!

I am writing this due to the post that was talked about this morning on the show. I have been through 4 miscarriages and I am 28 years old. My last two have been about 7 months apart and they can't explain to me why this is happening. I have been through several blood testing and also the dye test where they shoot dye into my uterus and everything was normal. I make it to about 6 weeks and then my hcg level goes down. I have been taking baby aspirin to help my blood flow better and also my prenatual vitamins daily. I feel that I am not getting any answers and all this is to them is trial and error. I dont know how much more I can do this emotionally and physically. My husband and I both want to have a baby so bad and I can't give that to him right now. I am sad, frustrated, mad, confused, etc. I just want some answers in what is going wrong and what can I do to finally carry a baby full term? Please help if you have anything to explain this. Thanks for listening Stephanie

Yes, the loss of a dream, the loss of a pregnancy is extremely difficult. I have recently had two miscarriages after one successful pregnancy. My daughter is four and we'd like to have one more baby. My doctor is testing me for thormbophilia - blood clotting disorder. I will obtain results late this week. Thank you for featuring this story. I trust it will educate many women so they will follow through with their doctors, then possibly having an answer and treatment.

I would like to thank you for the piece you did this morning on miscarriages. I just suffered my second miscarriage last week. I have had two within the past nine months. The first one was caused by a fibroid that grew into my uterus and took over my uterus and ended the pregnancy at 11 weeks. There are no answers for the second one yet, but the pregnancy ended at 6 weeks and 2 days. This was disappointing to me because it happened a day after first my doctors appointment. I am 31 and I feel as though my time is running out, especially since the miscarriage rate increases with age and multiple miscarriages. I really am not emotionally prepared to go through another miscarriage. I am planning to wait a few months, even if my doctor says it is OK, because of the emotional toll it has taken on me. Is there any advice you can give on trying to get prepared for another pregnancy? Are there any blood tests that can be performed now on my husband and me that would help us figure out if it is a genetic problem or a problem with me? Thanks again for the week long special. It has really helped me in my healing process.

But what to do if they CAN'T find a reason? I've suffered four miscarriages and no one can tell me what's wrong. I've been tested for physical problems, autoimmune disorders, chromosome issues, you name it.

Thank you for Christine's story this morning. It pains me to know that so many other women (and men!)like me suffer through the emotional ride of miscarriage, but it is also comforting to know my husband and I are not alone. My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for two years now. I am 30 years old and suffer from infertility and have had 2 miscarriages in the past 8 months--one pregnancy resulted from IVF, and we conceived naturally the second time (a small source of hope!). Like the doctor on your show suggested, my doctor is not of the "wait and see" philosophy, so we conducted tests on the second miscarried fetal tissue and determined that the fetus never had a surviving chance because he (yes, it was a boy) had 3 sets of chromosomes (69XXY), as opposed to the standard 2 (46XY or 46XX) that all humans have. However, because of my age, I feel lucky to know the main cause of my infertility--Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome--because I believe I still have plenty of time to treat my condition and hopefully carry a successful preganancy (or two or three!) to term. I urge anyone trying to get pregnant who is having problems to seek out a trusted reproductive endocrinologist/infertility specialist. Twenty years ago, the story would have been different for many people struggling to have a family, but today we are lucky to have science and technology on our side. The sooner you get medical help, the better your chances. Best of luck to everyone out there trying to create a family!

I just saw the piece on miscarriages this morning and I wanted to say THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!! My story is almost identical to Christine's- I had four miscarriages before literally diagnosing myself. When I left my specialist after the four m/c and asked for my bloodwork results, to my shock I saw that I had half the gene for two separate clotting disorders. As it turns out, the doctors felt these were not enough to cause my problem so they not only dismissed the results, but didn't even inform me about them. I knew from my research on the Internet that there were a lot of women who had these two halves (likely compounding as one) and were being treated with blood thinner only to have successful pregnancies. I found a new doctor, asked for the meds, and now have an 18 month old son and just found out I am five weeks along with a second, which we pray will be successful. I only write about my story because it is so important for women to be their own advocates- going into this process I trusted doctors blindly and it was only paralyzing grief that pushed me to find out what was wrong with me. I also want to personally thank Meredith for sharing her own story because when you are in the throes of such pain, you think you are alone and will never find your way to the other side. Knowing that other women have been through it and have had successful outcomes is so important, I can't emphasize this enough. It sounds so obvious but women do not talk about this, society does not talk about it. Miscarriage is still such a taboo topic and I realized how much our reproductive role still defines us as women in our society. Talking about it is the first step in supporting women who are suffering such pain. I was also touched by the doctor who said twice this morning that a miscarriage is a death of sorts for the family. It is hard to understand if you haven't been through it, but that is exactly what it is and having an expert of this doctor's standing acknowledge that on television is monumental in my book. Thank you again!! As I begin this journey again, I find that all of the fear and anxiety are as intense as with my first (or I should say fifth!) pregnancy and as difficult as the segment was for me to watch, it just made my day. Best regards, Colette Crabill

Thank you for airing such a important story. I have suffered 2 miscarriages - one at the beginning of the 2nd trimester. It was not until my 4th pregnancy that my Dr tested me for low progesterone of which I was dangerously low. My Dr. told me that I would lose the baby I was carrying at that time, however gave me supplements "just in case". My baby girl made it and is now a healthy 16mo old. I also have another daughter, 3 1/2 years, of which my Dr says is a "miracle". Thank you again.

I saw where TODAY is doing an article on adoption tomorrow. My wife and I have become unwilling experts. Currently we are in line for a Russian adoption, this after failed invitro, a miscarriage and local adoption ailments. Why Russia, you ask? We were originally drawn to Russia because the children are institutionalized, and need a home. My wife and I decided after retaining a lawyer for a local adoption and then realizing that 2-out-of-3 birthmothers change their mind at the birth of their child; plus the crazy things that can happen with local American adoptions felt that our best scenario was a foreign adoption. The agency we are using specializes in Russian adoptions, but also offer other countries like China and some South American countries. We heard bad things about women in these South American (Guatemala) countries having babies specifically to put up for adoption, so we decided not to entertain that avenue. Russia made sense to us. It was a 6-8 month process and it would cost not much more than a local adoption. We are now 10 months into it and now Russia has not processed the required accreditation of foreign agencies providing adoption services. This most likely will cause a delay, so or happy 6-8 month adoption trail will take a minimum of 14 months or longer. It may be longer. Please cover in your article the Russian accreditation delay. Why is it happening? Another thing here is that you cannot apply for multiple countries at the same time, without registering with multiple agencies. My wife is truly a mom waiting to happen. She used to work for a pediatric ophthalmologist and really enjoyed working with the children. She was adored by her patients and it provided a “mom release” for her instinct. We have been married for a little over 6-years and it seems that we are constantly hitting brick walls with our search to have children. Then you see Brad and Angolina and Madonna waltzing into countries and thirty days later they have a beautiful kid. “Oh, we did what normal people do to adopt in foreign countries”. If you believe that you are living on mars.

It breaks my heart to see the stories of the women who are having problems having children. I have experienced the pain of loosing two pregnancies. I suffered two tubal pregnancies. I had lost all hope of ever having children. I prayed and prayed. Dr. Nathan Berger at Mercy Hospital in Baltimore, MD performed surgery on my tubes to repair them in 1991. Here it was 1999, eight years later and I still didn't have a child. Approaching 40 and divorced, all hope of ever having a child was gone. I found out January 2001 that I was pregnant. I was very happy, but scared. Could this just be another pregnancy? I had a ultrasound done right away. All I could do is say over and over, please let the baby be in the right place. The doctor confirmed the baby was in the right place. What a relief, my prayers were answered! After notifying my boyfriend, he didn't want me to have the baby. Needless to say, I am a very happy single mom. I have a 5 year old son. I have indeed had rough times raising my child alone. I don't complain. My son is God's gift to me. I would love to have one more, but I am still single. I want to be married before I have any more children. My son is so precious to me. We live in MD, but we come to NY for his auditions. I am now in Graduate school at NYIT for communications. I am also a TV Producer. I have just written a short film called Justin's Prayer. I want to motivate single mothers every where to follow there dreams and keep there heads held high. Maybe one day I will be a Producer at the Today show. I am a loyal viewer. Thanks for doing this story to show woman there is hope for them to one day become a mother!

I'm SO proud of Christine it took courage to tell the story of her losses and give a voice to the wish for a third child. I suffered a stillbirth @ 38.5wks w/my first pregnancy that was otherwise uneventful+joyful. In the hospital after I lost my son they determined I had a clotting disorder. My Dr at the time was wildly dismissive about it this result.My husband +I traveled the journey for the next 3yrs and we delivered a healthy son last November. We met the right Drs after MUCH digging. Being a proactive patient is a must; it's our body and our responsibility to collaborate w/our Drs along the way. I applaud Meredith+Dr.Grifo for the educational nudge about 'well intented'thoughts;I'm willing to assume most people come from a good place it would be so nice if they thought before they spoke.Hugs and hold them(us) tight was Meredith's suggestion..maybe we should make tshirts! I would also like to acknowledge Meredith's courage to voice her history despite the passage of time. As mother's day approaches,I think the timing and the importance of this segment are spot on.Thank you so very much.

I was so touched by your piece on the show today and I loved Meredith's comments at the end on what to say to someone who has suffered a pregnancy loss. I had a loss at 19 weeks and it was devastating. I have joined a support group that has been a big help. We often are discussing the things people say that are well meaning, but just don't help. Meredith was so correct. All you need to say is I'm so sorry or I love you and hold that person tight. That will do so much more than trying to tell that person that it was meant to be or they will have another. I don't care if it was meant to be - those parents that lost that child sure don't see it that way - they would much rather hold that child in their arms. Sure, maybe they can have another, but maybe they can't - and wether they can or not, a subsequent child will never take the place of the one that was lost - that loss will be there forever. So thank you very much for the story and for Meredith's words that were so on point.

My children are now 23 and 25 years old. It took me 4 1/2 years to get pregnant the first time. We had lots of tests and procedures and thank God we finally had a happy ending. We are now grandparents! My point in writing is that I am recording this week's infertility segments because even though I am 55 years old, my infertility experience is still a part of my life. The pain of those years is still part of who I am now and once in the while it is important to honor that experience by touching that piece of my soul. I have been able to talk to others thru the years as they walk that road. I know from experience how devastating it is to see everyone else having children and feeling like a freak not to be able to do this supposedly simple thing. The pain and fear was balanced for me by a strengthening of my marriage as we experienced the "bad times" we made vows to go thru together. I am with infertile couples in spirit and have indeed walked a mile in your shoes. I pray that however the story ends for you that you will be at peace.

Thank you for finally airing something about multiple miscarriages. I miscarried my first three pregnancies. The doctors could not determine the problem and after the third my doctor suggested using heparin. She said some women just need heparin to hold onto a pregnancy. She also said that I could have a yet to be discovered blood clotting disorder. With my fourth pregnancy, I was on heparin and finally had my child! He is now two years old. Just yesterday, I mentioned to my husband that it had been six years to the day since we had our first miscarriage and I asked him if he thought the pain ever goes away. Even though I have a healthy two year old now, I don't think the pain ever goes away, it lessens, but doesn't go away. I remember being so frustrated with everyone's comments (it happened for a reason, etc.) and feeling like I had no one to turn to, so it is very important to educate everyone on the subject. Again, thank you for airing such an important topic.

Thank you for bringing to light the pain that comes with having a miscarriage or tubal pregnancy. I had a tubal pregnancy 1 year ago, and the pain emotionally and physically was unbearable. My husband and I had been trying for just over a year and were ecstatic to say the least. Then the news of no heart beat and pains the abdomen. No one can understand the pain one feels when they lose their baby. It is almost impossible to put into words, and yet many go through this. Thank you for shedding some light on this subject that is often overlooked and not spoken about. It is comforting just to know that there are some many other people out there who Do know what it is like, and they have also some how survived.

I too have suffered through a miscarriage. It is like a death that no one mourns except the mother. I miscarried at home alone. My doctor told me if I went to the hospital for pain meds and support they would force me to sit in the waiting room. It's like the medical community is so hardened aganist miscarriage.I have a 7 old daughter that I had when I was 19 and was a single mother for a long time. Then I met the man of my dreams and wanted to have a real family but it has been two years, 1 miscarriage, lots of fertility drugs, empty bank account, unexplained infertility and no baby. Sometimes I think I am being punished because when I was 19 and pregant, they were moments when I just wished it would all go away. Now I am a happy mother and want more children and want to experience becoming a mother in a viable relationship. Please discuss costs/risks of infertility and the lack of insurance coverage for IVF for most people.

I missed the show this morning, but my mom called to tell me about it. I have suffered the pain of three miscarriages, after having a healthy son. I was diagnosed with low levels of anticardiolipin antibodies, and am now 23 weeks pregnant and injecting myself daily with Lovenox (blood thinner) and taking a baby aspirin. Everything seems to be going well this time, and we are hopeful for a healthy child. If you are going through the loss of recurrent miscarriages, don't give up and keep searching for answers. It can make all the difference!

After having three healthy boys, I suffered two miscarriages at 16 weeks. They were a year a part. I just found out that I had another mis last week,but it was early. All of the blood work came back fine. I was told that the egg quality was poor. Is this a cop out? I don't know. I relate to the other women who have sent in their comments. I am so sad and angry and when I see other pregnant women I want to run and hide. When my friends have new babies, I can't be in the same room with them. I always considered myself a strong person, but this just kills me. I don't know if I should try again, for fear that another loss might actually put me over the edge. I am hoping that some of my friends watched today's show so they will realize how much of a loss this is and will stop telling me to just "get over it." I pray for all of you who want a child and I hope that all of our wounds heal.

Thank you so much for highlighting infertility and especially the painfulness of recurrent miscarriages. Although I have certainly appreciated the focus on this issue, I really wish there was equal attention given to male infertility within the same context as infertility is a couple's diagnosis and male infertility is a factor in half of the diagnosed cases of infertility.

While my heart goes out to all those women who've miscarried one or more pregnancies, and I commend the Today Show for addressing this issue, ...what about those who've not yet been able to concieve due to a malformed reproductive system and don't know if they can carry if they do someday conceive? My 24 yr old daughter has a "Unicornuate Uterus"; having only one fallopian tube (on the right side; none on the left), along with an underdeveloped uterus (only about 1/2 the normal size). She has both ovaries, but the left one has adhered itself to the abdominal wall again (even after surgery 2 yrs ago to free it) and there is NO tube on the left. This was all discovered just 2 years ago, during tests to determine the cause of her extreme pain & bleeding during ovulation and heavy periods. She has received conflicting opinions from her doctors, surgeon & specialists as to just "how underdeveloped" her uterus actually is and whether or not she'll ever be able to conceive, or carry a pregnancy to term for that matter. The surgeon gave her copies of the actual digital photos taken of during her laparoscopy 2 yrs ago, clearly showing a tiny uterus (it's not much bigger than her right ovary). For the past 2 years, she and her fiance` have not been "trying" to conceive, but they've not taken any measures to prevent pregnancy either. Has anyone here experienced a similar condition and miscarried as a result?? ...or carried to term in spite of this condition??

Thank you for having this series run near Mother's Day. I have had three miscarriages in the past year and a half, and Mother's Day is particularly painful for me. It is thoughtful to run a series for women whose struggle toward motherhood is so often not outwardly visible or acknowledged. Also thank you to Meredith and the producer for sharing their painful experience of miscarriages with viewers.

I had a miscarriage very recently. I had to have a D&C this past Wednesday. I was 11 weeks along, but when we went in for the first ultrasound, we were told there was no heartbeat and the baby measured 9 weeks. I had no idea the baby had died. I was and still am very devastated. I appreciate stories like this one, they help somewhat. We are planning on trying again but right now even thinking about it is scary, as it just happened to us. I'm also considered "advanced maternal age" at 36 years old. Thank you for the informative piece though, I hope it helps others as well.

Thanks for devoting time to an important topic that many well meaning family, friends and co-workers casually dismiss. My husband and I are trying to start our family and have many fertility issues to overcome, so I definitely relate to your viewers. On another note, I'm part of Fertile Dreams in Orlando. We're a nonprofit organization and provide three $10,000 scholarships annually to be used toward treatment at any fertility clinic in the U.S. Our first recipients just had twins in March. They'd tried to start their family for more than 7 years, had taken out a second mortgage on their home and had all but given up when they learned about the grant. We also host a fertility health fair and gala each year. This year 80 couples attended. All of us on the planning committee have gone through or are currently going through fertility issues. Additionally, Fertile Dreams was created 3 years ago by a Central Florida physician and his wife who personally experienced fertility issues after trying to build their family for 10 years. If you'd like to learn about us, we're at www.fertiledreams.org. Thanks, Michelle Lynch Orlando

I am 24 years old and have suffered 2 miscarriages. I have PCOS, but was told it is a mild case. I ovulate on my own, but not until around cycle day 26-28. I am told that this causes the egg to be of poor quality. I was put on Clomid 2 months ago, and now I am having positive ovulation tests with no follicle seen on ultrasound. I am wondering if I should try naturally again? I am hoping you can possibly discuss clomid since it is the most commonly perscribed infertility treatment! Thanks

Thank you for doing this very important show on miscarriage and infertility. My sister got pregnant via IVF and became very ill with pre-eclampsia at 20 weeks. After a 3 week hospital stay she ended up losing the baby because the pre-eclampsia was so severe. One year later she was told that if she became pregnant again the pre-eclampsia would most likely re-occur. I offered to carry the baby for her. I had had 4 successful pregnancies and births and I was the perfect candidate. I did become pregnant with her embryo but had my first miscarriage a few weeks after the embryo had implanted and the pregancy was confirmed. I have been searching for information on trying to figure out if this is a case of "bad luck" for my sister and her husband or if this is truely a chromosomal problem with her embryos. They would like to try again but can not face another disappointment like this. We need a really good resource or more information on tests we can do to see if there is more of a problem that is causing her embryos not to make it. Any suggestions? Thanks again for talking about these issues.

Wow, I was so happy to see my favorite morning program covering this subject. As someone who has suffered 3 miscarriages (all in my 40s) I know how devastating they can be. Your program was excellent and made me cry. It brought it all back, the frustration and sorrow that you feel when you are going through it. I am now 6 months pregnant with a healthy baby. I had to do a lot of testing, and much like Christine (the woman you profiled) I had to be my own advocate. I tested borderline for a thyroid condition. I asked my doctor to treat me as if I had the condition and low and behold this pregnancy has thrived. Thanks for removing the stigma of miscarriage and for educating people on what not to say. Also, Meredith did a great job and I was so pleased that she revealed that she too has experienced multiple loses.

I have been going into work late this week, just so I can stay home and watch your stories on fertility. My husband and I have been going through fertility treatments for almost 2 years. We are 28 years old and were told that IVF was our best option. We were devastated when last year's first attempt failed. We are not giving up on our dream of becoming parents, and stories like yours help us to feel not-so-alone. Thank you for putting infertility into the spotlight, and making it easier to discuss with family and friends. Keep up the good work!

my husband and i had been trying to get pregnant for over ten years and finally around our anniversary last year we found out indeed we were...but a week later we lost all hope when a miscarriage took our baby. now we are still trying but it gets tough especially since its been 6 months since the loss. we have been told by several doctors that it wouldnt take this long. we are not giving up though and its good to hear there are so many women that are standing strong through such rough times.

Thank you for airing the segment today on miscarriage. I am 38 years old and have suffered two miscarriages in the past six months. Managing the physical recovery has been much easier than dealing with the emotional. Like Christine, I have a very difficult time around other pregnant woman, or anything baby-related. I often find myself making excuses why not to attend functions with potentially pregnant woman, and dread someone asking me if I have any children (my husband and I are trying for our first.) Additionally, the overwhelming amount of baby-related items in the media is just a constant reminder of what my husband and I have lost. Often, I find that most people do not associate miscarriage with grief and emotional healing. After the first miscarriage, I received flowers, cards and hugs. After the 2nd, coworkers, friends and relatives just avoided acknowledging the loss. Now, 2 months later, those around me expect me to be over the grief and stop being upset. So, thank you Meredith for correcting Dr. Grifo's comment that miscarriage is LIKE a death in the family. The loss of two potential lives has been, and continues to be, the most devastating experience of my lifetime. I am also grateful for Dr. Grifo recommending that women with multiple miscarriages seek testing before the third loss. I was also told by my doctor to try again and if the next pregnancy resulted in miscarriage, I would be referred for testing. My instincts, however, tell me not to wait. Again, I am thankful that Today chose to do this segment, and in such a tasteful manner. Having experienced two miscarriages, I often feel out of place in society, particularly because miscarriage is not generally discussed or addressed. I hope that this piece will enlighten others that miscarriage is an incredibly painful experience and not one that is easily brushed aside. Thank you again.

My husband has just called me to say his cousin has had a second miscarriage in only a year on yesterday. She is the wife of a doctor. She is an only child who wants to have children. Fortunately, after fertility drugs almost three years ago she was able to deliver twin boys. I can only pray that she will find an answer as to why this keeps happening to her. She is a wonderful woman and deserves happiness. Thank you for the story today. We hope we will be able to share this with her.

Wow, its sad to see how common miscarriages are, but yet, seems not many answers. I had a healthy baby boy 10yrs ago with my husband, we have since lost 11 babies....our last one, just last month, I carried til 13weeks. Talk about baffled...to have one successful, normal pregnancy, and healthy son!! To, 11 miscarriages. I am now 36 years old...and doctors are baffled, and having tons of tests and many, many, ultrasounds..no solutions yet. Thank you so much for you time devoted to this mystery. I have to say, only my strength in God has kept us pushing on!!!

The information I saw on this morning Today's show really hit close to home.I found out I was pregnant on March 13th. I immediately called the Dr. to do all the things pregnant women are supposed to do when they find out there pregnant. My first appointment was April 12th. I had been experiencing major breast tenderness, tiredness, forgetting things all the normal signs of a pregnant women. However, 1 thing I was not prepared for was when my husband my mom and I went in for the 1st routine ultrasound as this would be our 1st child to be and my mom and dads 1st grandchild to be. At first everything looked great. I cried with tears of enjoyment as we saw are precious angel developing perfectly only to be told that the baby I had been growing to love did not have a heartbeat. My tears of happiness turned to instant sadness and heartbreak. I didn't know what to think it all hit me so fast. They had told me I was 10 weeks and that they should see a heartbeat @ that point. I knew I was not 10 weeks but at that point was not in the mood to argue with the Dr. The following day they had me come back for HCG testing and that was on Friday the 13th. The following Monday I was hoping that the #'s were still high. I got the news and they were very HIGH! I was so excited and thought maybe it was to early to hear a heartbeat.. only to do another HCG testing on Tuesday and wait for the #'s. Well with that we got disappointing news, my #'s had dropped drastically. I couldn't stop the crying the depression of all this was awful. I would see a pregnant lady and burst into tears, see a newborn and same thing. My body would not naturally miscarry and was still treating my body as if it was still pregnant even thought the #'s were dropping. I had to undergo a d&c and am now 3 weeks post d&c. I am still very devastated @ this loss and angry all the above. Seeing this morning made me realize that treating this like a death in the family wasn't a bad thing and it should be treated that way helped. I know I can try again and there's a reason it happened. But when its happened to you.. THOSE ARE NOT THE WORDS YOU WANT TO HEAR. THEY ARE NOT COMFORTING IN ANY WAY. I wanted this baby and no one was going to tell me diferent. I will be trying again when its safe to and can't wait to have a baby someday soon enough. To all of those who have suffered a loss my heart goes out to you. I know how you feel and to know were not alone and this is such a common thing makes it more worse to realize. Theres never an explanation on why this happened unless blood tests say otherwise. For me, it was a natural thing and I am greatful to know nothing is wrong. God bless you all and I hope your aching heart will heal overtime. May god bless you all with a little angel soon enough. Kelly

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